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An Effective Way To Apologize

February 18, 2015 — 4 Comments

When’s the last time you screwed up and owed someone an apology? It’s probably fairly recently.

We all mess up and hurt those we care about and lead. I know I’ve needed to apologize recently.

That’s not to say I’m perfect at apologizing. Oh, no! Far from it. I’m not even good.

Ask my wife and she’ll probably tell you that I suck at apologizing. (But that’s a discussion for another time and also a reason I’m writing this post)

Frankly, I’m not good at apologizing. Words fumble out of my mouth and they don’t even sound like an apology.

But I was reading Chris Brogan’s book The Freaks Shall Inherit The Earth: Entrepreneurship For Weirdos, Misfits, And World Dominators and came across a section that made me pause and think.

Every leader will come to the point where he feels he can go no more. That he must give in to the exhaustion he is facing. But is this the proper course to take?

This is the question answered by Andy Andrews in the last decision of The Traveler’s Gift. I’ve shared with you the previous six decisions in past blog posts.

David Ponder nears the end of his journey as he receives the scroll from Gabriel with the decision to Persist Without Exception written on it. It’s a fitting end as David had not persisted without exception and that’s how he wound up traveling through time.

What Is Persisting Without Exception?

Persisting without exception is knowing the end goal. It is being unwilling to waver even when the situation seems daunting and scary. It means continuing despite exhaustion setting in.

At one point or another, every leader has been burned by a relationship they’ve been involved it.

The souring of a business relationship, the pain and rejection felt at the ending of a romantic relationship, feelings of betrayal when an employee defects to another business. We’ve all been there and felt the sting.

There are those who will face the slight with an unforgiving heart. Resolving to hold onto the pain and use it against anyone and everyone who may do them harm.

They think this will protect them. Building a wall and barrier between them and the hurt or possibility of hurt.

Instead, they’re creating a heart of bitterness. Pushing people and opportunities away while holding on to past wrongs.

Andy Andrews discusses why we must be willing to greet the new day with a forgiving spirit as the sixth decision for success in The Traveler’s Gift.

Choosing To Be Happy

March 29, 2013 — 54 Comments

Each and every day we have a choice. That choice:

Whether to be happy or not.

This is a continuation of my examination of Andy Andrew‘s 7 Decisions from The Traveler’s Gift.  Today I Choose To Be Happy is the 5th decision. Maybe the most important.

Can You Really Choose To Be Happy?

You may be asking yourself that question. Is it really possible to choose happiness?

You can and there’s ways to make this decision easier.

But my life’s not perfect. I’ve done things that create sadness in my life. My home life is terrible. My job is miserable. There’s no way I could choose to be happy in the situations I face daily.

This is where we mess up and destroy our chance of being happy. We’ve let our circumstances dictate whether or not we will be joyful.

Create A Decided Heart

February 25, 2013 — 31 Comments

There’s been many times I’ve started a new adventure or chose to learn a new skill. Only weeks latter to see I had made no progress.

My interest had waned and I no longer pursued what I thought I was passionate about.

Why?

Because my heart wasn’t in it. My heart was undecided.

I have a decided heart is the fourth decision for success in Andy Andrews book The Traveler’s Gift. This may be one of the most important keys to success you will ever learn.

What Is A Decided Heart?

Having a decided heart is simple in theory. Difficult in practice.

You’ve come to the point of having a decided heart when your passion meets your heart. You then put forth the effort to chase after the passion with all you have.