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We like to believe that we’re on the right path when things are going well. Doors are opening. And the path is clear.

When we come to a brick wall and hit it full speed, we like to think we’re doing something wrong.

But are we really doing something wrong?

Brick Wall

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Now, I’ve never run into a brick wall. At least that I can remember.

Though I have run into roadblocks in my life. Events and circumstances which caused me to think I was going in the wrong direction.

These experiences have taught me it’s not always the case. There will be times when we run smack-dab into a wall.

In an interview, the great skateboarder Tony Hawk recalled his first time on a skateboard.

Tony way 10 years old. His brother had a sick skateboard.

Fighting To Be Right

June 18, 2012 — 52 Comments

Sometimes I think the need to be right is a deep down desire…

We argue with those we love, push people away, and make others feel worthless. All because we FEEL we need to be right.

Have you ever found yourself in that situation before?

Man punching someone in the face

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I have. Even recently.

My wife and I were looking for our water bottles that we refill. They were missing and we couldn’t find them.

When I returned home from a long day at work, I noticed something in the bathroom. There was one of the water bottles.

We then had a “conversation.”

Me: Hey honey. I found one of the water bottles.

Her: Where at?

Me: In the bathroom. You must have put it there.

Her: No, I didn’t bring anything into the bathroom today.

The Power Of Gratitude

April 23, 2012 — 34 Comments

What would you say if I told you that you could have more happiness in your life? And all you had to do was make a simple, yet often difficult, change in your attitude?

I hope you’d jump at the chance to learn the secret. Well, today is your lucky day as I’m letting you in on this little secret.

Thank You

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That secret is Learn To Be Grateful.

What does that mean? Dictionary.com defines it as: warmly or deeply appreciative of kindness or benefits received.

To break it down even further, it means to be thankful.

Express your gratitude to those around you. When your neighbor has come over and snowblown your driveway, go over and tell them how much you appreciated it. If a fellow shopper holds the door for you as you’re entering the store, say “thank you.” Or if an author has touched your life, send them a note telling them that.

Today, I am writing as a contributor to the Christian Writers Blog Chain. The theme for March is “Savor.” If you are a Christian author or writer, be sure to check out Christianwriters.com to network with others.

The statistics for marriages can be downright disappointing.

Divorce is widespread. Affairs and flings appear to be common. Married couples are at an all-time low.

It may seem that marriages are dying and yours may be next.

But that doesn’t have to be the case. You can have an amazing marriage. It just takes a little bit of work.

Are you willing to put in the effort?

Statue of a couple in Denmark

Photograph by Derpunk

More marriages might survive if the partners realized that sometimes the better comes after the worse.
– Doug Larson

Here are five ways to save your marriage and savor the relationship:

When you get married, your focus shifts from yourself to your spouse. It is one of the most important relationships that you will have. Your relationship with your spouse will also affect the quality of your leadership.

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In EntreLeadership, Dave Ramsey talks about the spousal interview. During the hiring process Dave will require an interview with the spouse of the prospective employee. He does this to see if the prospect is married to ‘crazy.’ That is someone who makes life miserable, has a bad attitude, or is high maintenance.

Your spouse requires a lot of time and effort. Crazy spouses and bad relationships require even more time and effort.

If you have a crazy spouse it will drain on your leadership skills.

Nagging, bickering, and pettiness will drain your energy.

Your focus will be off. It will be on her and keeping her happy rather than leading to the best of your ability.