How To Have Real Conversations

Knowing how to have real conversations has value beyond the corporate world. While knowing how to have real conversations as a leader is important, you also need to know how to bring this skill to your everyday life. Without the ability to carry on conversations, your world will be a much smaller place.

Man and woman sitting, having a conversation

Photo by Mael Balland

The problem is most people don’t know how to carry on a conversation well. They’ll bring up small talk like the weather or what they do for a living (the boring jist of it).

Small talk can derail conversations real quick.

People use small talk to get the conversation going. Too often, people will get stuck in the small talk and not branch out to more important matters.

If you can get conversations down, you will go far. In leadership… and in life.

Stop Living A Groundhog Day Life

Tomorrow is Groundhog Day. Punxsutawney Phil will peek his head above the ground and tell us how many days of winter is left.

With it being Groundhog Day, do you remember the 1993 comedy Groundhog Day? The film starred Bill Murray as Phil Connors. He was a weatherman covering a groundhog day event and gets caught in a time loop where he relives the same day over and over and over again.

Stop living on repeat

Photo by Peter Clarkson

The film is funny. Seeing Phil relive the same day, again and again, is funny. What’s not funny is that you and I can live Phil’s repeated day and not even realize the trap we’re caught in.

Are You Living On Repeat?

I look at my life and see I get caught on repeat quite often. My daily schedule looks the same. I wake up at the same time, go to the same office for work, do the same thing for lunch, head home, spend time with Pam and Lok, and so forth.

Finding Yourself For The First Time

We try to work on ourselves all the time. Trying to improve our knowledge. Trying to make our marriages better. And trying to make ourselves better leaders or employees.

We work, work, work on ourselves… Yet, the sad reality is, so few of us know who we truly are.

You have to take time to find yourself

Photo by Bryan Minear

We work on the person we believe we are. We fail to work on the person we are.

This trying to improve upon the mythical image we have of ourselves often drives us to depression, frustration, and regret. We work on something that we are not or are not yet and we struggle to make sense of why things aren’t working.

Our methods for improving ourselves aren’t working because we’re not working on the right person. We’re working on something that’s not real or true.

But what would happen if we discovered who we are… Especially for the first time? I know things will change.

5 Ways To Find Balance In Work, Life, And Play

Last year was a year out of balance. I forgot how to find balance in work, life, and play. Things were out of whack and I felt the consequences of being out of balance.

My blog writing suffered. My health suffered. And my relationships suffered. All because I wasn’t balancing life in the right way.

Leaders need to find work life balance

I’ve begun a shift in my life where I’m finding more balance. I’m getting the important aspects of my life taken care of along with the business side.

You can too, my friend. This article will help you find balance in work, life, and play.

5 Ways To Find Balance In Work, Life, And Play

1. Create a list of what is important to you:

We often lose our balance in life because we have never listed out what is truly important in life. By creating a list of what is important to you (you can get a FREE downloadable template at the end of this article), you begin to mentally take note of what activities, people, and tasks should take priority in your life.

Attitude Impacts Everything

Did you know that you have the ability to determine how your day will go? It’s true.

While we can’t make people do what we want. And we can’t change how others treat us. We can make sure we have a good day.

Attitude is your choice

You may be wondering how this could be. It’s simple, yet difficult, to implement.

We have control over the biggest influence of how our day goes. That thing we have control over is our attitude.

Why Attitude Matters

The famed basketball coach Lou Holtz is known to have said: Ability is what you’re capable of doing. Motivation determines what you do. Attitude determines how well you do it.

Prime Minister Winston Churchill said: Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.