Change is an ever-constant truth in our lives. Nothing stays the same (Well, except ONE thing).
The seasons change, our roles change, people change. We can’t stop change.
But there’s a lot of people out there who don’t like change. You may be one of them.
I am, at times.
I don’t like saying a forever goodbye. I don’t like losing a friend. I don’t like telling someone they’re no longer a fit.
It sucks. And yet these are changes we must face.
The Real Reasons We Resist Change
While there’s a lot of emotions in our fight to avoid change, that’s not the real reason we push back. There’s actually psychological reasons behind this.
We think of the worst-case scenario: When we face change, our minds automatically go to the worst-case scenario. This comes from the flight-or-fight portion of our brain. Read more...
Our lives are ripe with opportunities to take offense to the actions of others. Even more so, I believe, when you take on the mantle of leadership.
Opportunities For Offense As Leaders
Leading gives us many chances to become bitter. It’s true, especially when you begin to examine leadership and the intricacies involved with leading.
You’ll come across those who:
Want to take your position as a leader
Talk behind your back
Pass your over for promotion
Find opportunities to usurp your position
Try to turn others against you
If you’ve been a situation like these, you know there’s the whisper that’s telling you to hold onto the hurt you felt. It’s your right after all, right?
And that’s how offenses begin to take hold. That’s how offenses begin to hinder your ability to lead. Read more...
Think back to Christmas day and the expectations you had. Presents wrapped underneath the Christmas tree. Snow on the ground. The days off of school.
Expectations were built. Expectations were had. Sometimes they were met, other times we were left empty.
However, there was a power behind our expectations.
The power of our expectations was able to get us out of bed early. Excited and ready to rip into presents.
Now, expectations normally let us down.
We have the expectation of the daily grind. The expectation of doing our daily workout. Or maybe it’s the expectation of returning to work on Monday.
Somehow we’ve let expectations turn into a negative, rather than a positive, empowering force.
How can you harness the power of expectation today? Here’s a few tips to do so. Read more...
Being chosen for a position of leadership is a great honor. It shows someone noticed your potential and asked you to come along for the ride. Or maybe you chose yourself to lead. You took measured action and stepped up to the plate. And you’ve been leading ever since.
But there comes a day when we’ve all got to make the choice to move on. Whether or not you make the choice is up to you.
However, it’s a decision you don’t make lightly. You know you’ve been blessed with a great position, leading a great team, and having the time of your life. Except for when it’s not.
Let’s look at 3 reasons you might make the choice to move on in your leadership duties. Read more...
My wife and I have recently found a show we really enjoy. It’s called Arrow on the CW.
Arrow follows the story of Oliver Queen after he is rescued from a remote island.
Oliver pretends to return to his previous life as a rich playboy. Except that’s not who he is now.
The island had changed him. It left him with scars. Both physical and mental. And it’s changed his mindset.
His story got me thinking about the issues we face in our daily lives. How we’re often left with mental scars that redirect our lives.
How We Get Mental Scars
We are left with mental scars by many of the situations we face daily.
An abusive boss. An argument we had with our spouse. Words said by an abusive father.
The wounds cut deep and leave us altered. Guarded and scared. Read more...