How A Healthy Community Can Help Your Potential Explode

September 5, 2012 — 43 Comments
How A Healthy Community Can Help Your Potential Explode | Joseph Lalonde

Too often we think of ourselves as ineffective and weak. We cannot change the world. Or so we think.

So we go about our ordinary, everyday lives. Waiting for that moment of greatness.

I’ve got news for you and me. Our moment of greatness will not come from sitting on the couch, by ourselves, twiddling our thumbs.

It just won’t. We weren’t created for individual greatness. We were created for community. We were created to feed off of each other. We were created to be great together.

This is first shown in the Bible with Adam and Eve. They were created for each other. To rule over the land.

We’re also shown this in Genesis 11:5-8.

Here we find the story of the tower of Babel.

“They are one people and have one language, and nothing will be withholden from them which they purpose to do.” So God said, “Come, let us go down and confound their speech.” And so God scattered them upon the face of the Earth, and confused their languages, and they left off building the city, which was called Babel “because God there confounded the language of all the Earth.”

While their plan was not for good, it shows what the power of community and like-mindedness can do. Anything!

When this group of people came together, with one goal, with one mindset there was nothing that they couldn’t do. They had the power of community.

You can still find this today.

Find those that will join with you in your journey. Linking hand in hand with those that want to succeed and want to see you succeed.

Ask them to begin to challenge you to change. Let them ask you tough questions.

  • What steps do you need to take today to go towards your goal?
  • How can you get out of your comfort zone?
  • Is this really your passion?
  • Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
  • Why are you not pursuing your dream?
  • What’s holding you back?

These questions will only benefit you if you answer them truthfully and to your community.

As you answer, you’ll get feedback. You can bounce around ideas. You can expand your thinking.

Instead of relying only on yourself, you will have multiple brains to pick. An exponential amount of years of experience will be available to you. Your community will help propel you forward.

Let me leave you with this idea and video.

Have you ever seen a sparkler?

It’s a small “firework” that sparkles, crackles, pops, and dimly lights up the dark. There’s not much to it. Probably one of the least impressive fireworks we’ve created.

But when you combine it with other sparklers (your community) and tightly wrap them up (tossing your ideas off of each other), something powerful happens.

You get what some people call a sparkler bomb (creativity, greatness, potential put to use).

These combined sparklers give a loud explosion, bright flashes of light, and can tear through garbage cans, washers, and cars.

Here’s a quick video showing this in action:


The potential for great power is there. It’s only released when combined with many others.

Are you ready to step into a healthy community that will help your potential explode?

Question: When’s the last time you’ve seen a community bring out your potential? How did they do this? Please share your thoughts in the comment section below.

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  • http://www.brandongilliland.com/ Brandon Gilliland

    This is something to think about…when a community has the same vision and purpose, great things can happen.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Exactly Brandon.

  • http://tcavey.blogspot.com/ TCAvey

    The blogging community helps bring out my potential, it challenges me to go beyond what I at first imagined. I’m humbled and grateful to be part of it. 

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      It’s pretty amazing, huh? Striving with others is a huge boost to the confidence.

      • http://tcavey.blogspot.com/ TCAvey

        Reminds me of a chapter in the book “Love Does” by Bob Goff, in it he says we must make sure we are riding in a car with someone going the same direction as us.

        • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

          Love Does… Such a great book.

          • http://jonstolpe.com/ Jon Stolpe

            I agree.  If you haven’t read Love Does by Bob Goff, go pick it up today!

  • http://www.LifeAsExperienced.com Seth Caddell

    I’ve started meeting with a group of other bloggers in my area.  We all are pushing one another to accomplish our goals.  Consistent emails and encouragement help, plus it’s so much better to celebrate with others than alone when we reach our goals.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      That’s awesome Seth! Glad you’re connecting with others and finding ways to push each other forward. Great things are ahead.

    • http://danblackonleadership.com/ Dan Black

       What a great idea Seth! I read a few people’s blogs who live in San Diego and this might be a great idea for me to start something like that.

      • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

         I’d highly recommend you try that Dan. Meeting with other bloggers and creatives, in person, creates a much different connection.

    • http://www.beyondthesinnersprayer.wordpress.com/ Barb

      That sounds like such a great idea – not sure if there’s many bloggers in my area since I live in a small town. How did you find them?

      • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

         I’ve found them by reaching out online and making myself known. There have been people that have found me through Twitter and my work with others. We’ve then connected in person.

        If you cannot find anyone to connect with locally then go for online relationships. It’s better than nothing.

        • http://www.beyondthesinnersprayer.wordpress.com/ Barb

          Thanks, Joe. I have made some online relationships and am enjoying that. I’m guessing it might be easier to find face-to-face people in a more populated area (I live in western Montana), but I’ll keep my eyes open.

          • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

            You might be surprised what you’ll find when you’re looking for it. Recently, I met a couple of the people I’d connected with online at a conference about an hour away. I’d never have known about it had it not been for one of these connections and him mentioning it to me.

    • http://jonstolpe.com/ Jon Stolpe

       Great idea!  Do any of you live in the Philly area?

  • http://www.michaelgholmes.com/ Mike Holmes

    I soooooo agree with this. I know its like to be in groups where I feel like I was the smartest person in the room. And now I thank God that that put me in an arena where I feel like the dumbest lol!

    Great post Joe!

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      That’s probably difficult going through such a shift but it’s also eye-opening. How did you deal with it?

      • http://www.michaelgholmes.com/ Mike Holmes

        A lot of prayer…and a lot of humbling myself :)

  • http://intentionaltoday.com/ Ngina Otiende

    “Instead of relying only on yourself, you will have multiple brains to pick.” An awesome perspective and for me one of the 2nd best reasons for community building (the first being the timeless biblical principle of family)

    My community helps me stay motivated, focused and challenges me to the next level. Doing life together with others is what great living is all about. There are some blogging hoops i wouldn’t have been able to go over alone. Am glad for family :)

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

       Sounds like you’ve got a great community Ngina.

  • brandongerard

    Joe,

    I could not agree more with your post.  Having others to push you and pick you up when you are down is very motivating.  Its also great when a few people get together and everyone can start feeding off the energy of the group.  Good things can happen from this energy.  I am a runner and I love going off for a solo run, but I have found I love the energy of a race or a group run.  I think being around others that are deeply motivated by similar interest just ignites a fire in people and when those fires are lit watch out.   

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

       Brandon, running’s a great example. The motivation of others can drive us forward.

  • http://danblackonleadership.com/ Dan Black

    Joe,

    Growth and reaching our potential requires other people, it’s why community is so important. I know I have stretched even more toward my potential because of the connections I have made through blogging.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      That’s awesome Dan. Keep stretching!

    • http://jonstolpe.com/ Jon Stolpe

      Me too, Dan.  The blogging community has forever changed my life.  And there is power in this blogging community to change the world!

  • http://www.beyondthesinnersprayer.wordpress.com/ Barb

    I see this in Bible studies – and also working through issues on my blog. Just hearing how others do things makes me see different ways I need to change.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

       Exactly Barb. Another great example is Alcoholics Anonymous. The community helps each member improve.

  • http://www.danerickson.net/ Dan Erickson

    Nice insights, Joe.  Although I tend to be more of an individual player than a team player as a writer and songwriter, my writing is filled with ideas, insights, values, and stories that were inspired by being parts of varying communities.  I could never have written a word alone.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      That’s awesome you can still see how community has played a part in your writing even though you’re more of an individual player.

  • http://jonstolpe.com/ Jon Stolpe

    I saw the power of community when my blogging community joined together to raise $8,000 to build a house in Guatemala.  Then I saw the power of community again when our team build the house in 2 1/2 days this summer.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

       That was awesome Jon. Seeing a community raise that kind of money was inspiring.

  • http://alanamokma.wordpress.com/ Alana Mokma

    holy crap. I knew the waste can was going to explode, but it still made me jump. :) 

    So, I have a question for you. I FULLY agree with you about community and the importance of it… I have a small community of people that I can bounce ideas off from. My question is how do I EXPAND my community? I’d love to have more people I can connect with who would ask me the tough questions. How do you recommend doing this? 

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

       Haha.. Isn’t that crazy? Just a bunch of sparklers.

      My suggestion would be to continue to reach out and be part of other communities. Shortly after WordCamp I had a local person contact me via Twitter to connect. All because he had seen my work helping out another blogger.

      Hmmm… I think you’ve sparked a new blog post idea.

  • http://www.liveitforward.com/ Kent Julian

    Great points, Joe! I especially love your thoughts on “power of community” and “like-mindedness.” Shared purpose is priceless! 

    What’s more, the process of coming together usually has a profound impact on each group member as well as the community. 

    BTW, this fits well with something I shared about serving and community:
    http://www.liveitforward.com/thoughts-on-success-is-serving-your-community-really-worth-it/

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Thanks Kent.

      You’re right. When we come together we’re able to affect each other more than we would if we did it separately. I take a look at Dan Miller’s community and am amazed by the progression those in the group have made. All by forming a healthy community.

  • jeff

    While this all sounds very good, I don’t think you seem to appreciate all the relational and psychological problems that people have to heal from just to enter a “healthy community”. How can I find healthy community if I have to get through a mountain of therapy and self-acceptance just to move into community?  How can I find people to help me “get out of my comfort zone” if most people are outside my comfort zone?  

    What role does God have to play in all of this?
    Why my hesitation for years upon years, even after all my healing — even after I have done my work to enter into relationships?
    Who propels people into community?  Why do some people succeed moving themselves into community and stay in that discomfort zone?  Was it their secure upbringing?  

    Action is a GIFT.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

       You might be surprised to know that I struggled with entering into a healthy community. Growing up, I had a fear that others were out to get me and that they wanted nothing more than to hurt me.

      It was through reading the Bible that I came across verses that showed God created us for community. Here’s a few that might help –

      Acts 2:42 – They devoted themselves to the apostles teaching and to the fellowship, to the breaking of bread, and to prayer.

      Hebrews 10:24, 25 – Let us consider how to stimulate one another
      and to love and good deeds, not forsaking our own assembling together,
      as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another; and all the more
      as you see the day drawing near

      Psalm 55:14  – What good fellowship we once enjoyed as we walked together to the house of God

      Philippians 2:4 – Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.

      Jeff, I hope these scriptures help you as they have helped me in the past. I’d be more than willing to trade emails with you if you want to discuss this further or we can continue exchanging replies here.

      • jeff

        These are verses that I’ve applied for many years through various community situations.  I knew that I needed community and have needed to increase in it.

        However, it is also “community” where I’ve taken on a role of encouraging.  I love to encourage, but it became more of a facade from becoming an authentic person.  It was hampering my ability to be authentic.  It was exhausting and increasingly alienating.

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