Fill The Void

September 26, 2012 — 19 Comments
Fill The Void | Joseph Lalonde

Vacuums, the absence of matter not the household appliance, are an amazing phenomenon.

A vacuum is a space where there is no matter. On Earth, nature doesn’t like a vacuum. So outside pressure will try to push particles into the vacuum to fill the empty space inside of the vacuum.

Interesting, huh?

Our lives our like a vacuum.

We’ll clear out a couple of bad habits. We’ll feel good about ourselves. We’ll think we’re doing great.

Except we forgot to fill the empty space created by ridding ourselves of the bad habits.

There will be a void left in our lives. An empty space longing to be filled. And it will find something to fill itself with.

We must fill that void or the bad habits will come back with a vengeance.

This is why you need to be intentional in filling any void you create in your life. If you don’t, you’ll unconsciously find something to fill it with.

When you

  • stop smoking: Find a substitute for the feeling of a cigarette in your hand and mouth. Otherwise your natural inclination will be to reach for a cigarette to satisfy that urge.
  • stop watching TV: Have good books on hand to fill the empty space that no TV will leave. Discover outdoor activities that you enjoy.
  • stop using negative words: Begin using words that bring a positive feeling. Let the words freely flow from your mouth. Make it second nature to speak goodness.
  • stop sleeping in: Prepare what you will do when you first wake up. Fill it with an activity such as exercise, reading, or eating a balanced breakfast.

Clearing out the negative areas in your life is a great task to undertake. We just need to be careful to fill the void that breaking bad habits will leave.

Take simple steps to replace the old habits with new, healthy habits. Before you know it you’ll be at the top of your game.

Question: How do you fill the void left when you break a bad habit? Please share your thoughts in the comment section below.

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  • http://www.mattmcwilliams.com/ Matt McWilliams

    Never thought of it that way Joseph but it is what I am doing. I never consciously tried to eliminate negative words, I just started speaking positively. I think they drowned out at least 50% of the negatives.

    I never consciously tried to stop eating less sugar, etc. I just started eating more nutritious food that filled me up.

    I like it!

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Awesome Matt! It’s all about the baby steps and moving towards healthier choices.

    • http://www.michaelgholmes.com/ Mike Holmes

      I with you on the no negative words (ha…double negative).

  • http://danblackonleadership.com/ Dan Black

    The Christian response would be Jesus which is true but also believe God want’s us to use other things to fill in those gaps. 

    During my teen years I was a fence Christian, living for God during church services and living like the devil outside of church. When I fully gave my life to God I intentionally spend more time with other believes and in church activity’s(small groups and events) to fill my time so I would not spend it with my old friends.

    Great post! 

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      I like how you brought up the Christian response Dan.

      It was actually the reading of my Bible that got me thinking along this line. There’s the scripture that talks about an evil spirit leaving a person only to come back with more evil spirits. 
      I’ve found Biblical principles transfer into our physical, everyday lives as well. That’s how  I’ve cut back on TV watching and other time wasters.

      And thanks for sharing your testimony. Glad you realized what was happening and made the intentional decision to follow after Christ.

  • http://kimanziconstable.com/ kimanzi constable

    Great post Joe and one I can personally vouch is true. I’m breaking bad eating habits right now. I’ve replaced soda with water. Candy with fruit. I’m making progress, slow but sure.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Awesome Kimanzi! Replacing the bad habits with good ones makes the transition easier, huh? Glad you’re doing what it takes to care for your body.

      • http://kimanziconstable.com/ kimanzi constable

        I’m finally doing what I should have been doing all along!

        • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

           Keep it up my man! You’ll be glad with the results.

  • jeff

    I’ve stopped regular exercise. It takes me lots of time and concentration to arrange my day around it.  I needed deeper relationships, and this has forced exercise practically out of my life.  The void has become an obsession to fill it.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Jeff, while regular exercise can be time consuming, it’s still a much needed part of life. Just like anything else, we need to make sure there’s balance.

  • http://jonstolpe.com/ Jon Stolpe

    Finally, brothers and
    sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right,
    whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything
    is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.  Philippians 4:8

    I think it starts here.  We need to replace the “junk” with things that are excellent or praiseworthy.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Great verse to bring into the conversation Jon. It fits perfectly with what I was talking about. Focusing on excellent and praiseworthy things will begin to crowd out the negative.

  • http://dustn.tv/ Dustin W. Stout

    I’m a nail biter– can anyone suggest a good “Nail Biters Anonymous” group? ;)

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Haha, sorry bro. Can’t help you on that one. But if you wanted help in stopping that habit, you could always put some Bitter Barrier on your nails.

  • http://www.michaelgholmes.com/ Mike Holmes

    Alright here’s the question: is watching TV a bad habit? I mean I read a lot and some time I just want to rest my brain.

    So again: is watching TV bad?

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Hey Mike. That’s a loaded question. I know some people would say ABSOLUTELY! You need to get rid of the TV. And I know others that say Go ahead and watch it all you want. You deserve some rest.

      And I think the truth lies in the middle. Watching TV isn’t necessarily a bad habit. It only becomes one when you let it control you.

      I know, for awhile, it controlled a lot of my life. I’d change my schedule around certain TV shows and miss out on pieces of life. For me, it was a bad habit.

      But, if watched in moderation, I think it’s fine.

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