Don’t Get Stuck In The Start

June 20, 2014 — 18 Comments
Don’t Get Stuck In The Start | Joseph Lalonde

Starting is the hardest thing to do. Or so people say.

But is it really the truth? Is starting all that hard?

Don't get stuck like Batman

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I don’t think starting is really hard. It’s actually pretty easy. Especially now when you’re able to start with so little.

Starting requires virtually nothing now. You can start a business with just a computer and internet access. You can start a club through the use of websites like meetup.com. You can even get people to help you to start by using Kickstarter.

Stuck In The Start

You see, starting has never been easier.

With that, we’re able to get stuck in the start.

We prepare. We get the foundation set. We even raise money.

And yet we’re stuck. We don’t know where to go after starting.

This has happened with my friend, Brandon, and I.

Brandon and I met through my role as a community leader with Michael Hyatt. It was strange to the both of us that we lived in the same city and had the same interests.

We also wanted to start something really cool. We decided to launch a program to help people get started.

The problem? We haven’t launched Get Started Academy yet!

Why We Get Stuck In The Start

I’ve pondered the reasons why we get stuck. What’s holding us back and why can’t we launch?

The conclusion I’ve found is that things are almost too easy to start.

Throwing out ideas. Getting together for coffee at the local coffee shop. Buying a web domain.

It’s all so easy!

The struggle comes in actually launching and putting ourselves out there. It’s scary, wouldn’t you agree?

After you’ve begun, you have a choice to make. Do you stay where you’re at or do you bravely move forward?

Getting Past The Start

So, what does it take to get past the start? That’s the million dollar question so many starters would love to have the answer to.

What’s helping Brandon and I? Let’s take a look:

A desire to help others: Brandon and I know that there are people out there that need help. We believe we can help them. This means we’ve got to push forward.

But what is this desire? Digging deeper, we discover the desire to better others is our WHY. It’s the driving force behind creating Get Started Academy.

To get past the start, you have to have a deep longing for your WHY. Don’t let it be shallow. Let your WHY be something that motivates you to get work done.

A desire to help ourselves: We know that creating a program will help ourselves. Sure, it may seem a little selfish but it’s still a motivating factor.

By helping ourselves, we’re pushing ourselves to be better than what we were. We know by helping others, we’re becoming better people.

Sometimes you’ve got to turn your motivation inward and be a bit selfish. The desire to help yourself may feel wrong but it’s not.

A sense of where you’re going: Not knowing the direction you’re heading can cloud your judgement and hold you back. It’s freaky not knowing where you’re heading.

Create a plan of attack. List out the things you want to accomplish with your new project. Then list out the steps it will take to reach your goal.

You’ve now got a strategy to accomplish the goal you set out. You can get out of the start!

Maybe you just need to know where you’re going.

Don’t get stuck in the start guys. It’s debilitating and will hold you back.

When you start, continue to follow through. Know your WHY. Discover your motivation. Find your path.

Question: What do you do when you’re stuck in the start? Please share your thoughts in the comment section below.

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  • http://www.paulsohn.org/ Paul Sohn

    Very convicting post. I’m a great starter but not a good finisher. I realized to finish well, I need to develop habits that will reinforce my goals. Also, sharing this with my inner circle and asking for accountability helps as well. Again, insightful post Joe!

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com/ Joseph Lalonde

      Thanks for sharing Paul! I truly appreciate that.

      What kind of habits do you think will help you to reinforce your goals?

  • http://www.liveitforward.com/ Kent Julian

    I thought breaking up was the hardest thing to do :)

  • http://www.liveitforward.com/ Kent Julian

    In all seriousness, when I feel stuck at the start, I decide what the next best step is and I do that.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com/ Joseph Lalonde

      That’s a great way to get over it. I know there will be many people who struggle with finding the next best step. How do you figure out what you should do first?

      • http://www.liveitforward.com/ Kent Julian

        Most of the time it’s pretty logical. Slow down and think a bit and you’ll figure out the logical next step.

  • http://www.leadtoimpact.com/ Bernard Haynes

    Joe, you nailed me. I am great at starting, but terrible at finishing. I have several projects started, but not close to completion. I have changed my approach and am becoming more of a finisher.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com/ Joseph Lalonde

      We’re all there Bernard. There’s few of us who don’t struggle with finishing. What’d you change and how has that helped you?

  • http://kimanziconstable.com/ kimanzi constable

    When I’m stuck Joe I figure out what I should be doping right now then I do it. I remind myself that life is too short and I better get moving!

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com/ Joseph Lalonde

      Sounds like the same strategy as @kentjulian:disqus. Same question to you, how do you determine what to do next?

      • http://kimanziconstable.com/ kimanzi constable

        What’s important to where I’m at.

  • Pioneer Outfitters

    LOL, seriously? I come to all of you! Reach out!! Look at the “brain trust” you have right here! And I know for myself, I am a part of a couple different communities that when I say, “I need your help” they are ALL over it! (And Me!!)
    I know I am late (as usual) getting over here for this post- but maybe it was for a reason! I read a post this morning that to me, answers this question- going even deeper than the “Why” (and you know how much I respect the Why).

    Here!~> https://www.linkedin.com/today/post/article/20140527113908-101706366-if-i-were-22-to-succeed-you-need-to-be-hungry

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com/ Joseph Lalonde

      That’s awesome Amber-Lee! Seems like this is the way it should be when we get stuck. We go to those who can give us that little extra push to get going.

  • http://www.danknight.ca/ Dan Knight

    I feel abit sheepish to say I don’t find this post all that inspiring. I find it raising more questions, such as “what’s the difference between ‘preparation” vs ‘starting’?

    Far too many years ago, when I was on the track team in school, I was a sprinter; my races were a fraction of the time it took my friend Tom (who ran distance races) to run his races, yet both our “starting” sequences were very similar: 10 mins of stretching, a few “warm-up” jogs, then a few moments of “quiet focus” in the starting blocks. Ideally, I’d spent more time in the “starting blocks” than I did running the race.

    I think the real problem is, as you described at the start of your post, “starting is easy”. We see it all through our society, as “starting” has become easier, we have become more fickle. Whether in “relationships” that people connect easily but then disappear in the light of day, at the first sight of trouble. It’s easy and fun getting married; It’s a pain in the rear, being married.

    The real value of anything is not the “start-up costs” but the on-going maintenance: it’s the value of the long-term that really counts.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com/ Joseph Lalonde

      No worries saying that Dan. Not every post will resonate with everybody. That’s a hard task to do!

  • http://www.qualitylivingmadesimple.com/ Joshua Rivers

    I tend to get stuck with “Ready, aim, aim, aim…” I like to try to get things perfect and stay in the preparation stage.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com/ Joseph Lalonde

      It’s been said many times that perfection is the enemy of action. What’s something you could do to get you out of that line of thinking?

      • http://www.qualitylivingmadesimple.com/ Joshua Rivers

        I’ve been listening and reading a lot of things that help to encourage me to shoot for a minimal viable product – good enough. And then iterate from there.