Can you laugh in your marriage?

February 15, 2012 — 16 Comments
Can you laugh in your marriage? | Joseph Lalonde

You hear the horror stories all the time. “My wife won’t let me go out with the guys tonight” or “The romance has stopped in our marriage.”

It is true, there are times when those words will be uttered by a spouse. But it comes with the territory. In marriage, it is a give and take.

There is no more lovely, friendly and charming relationship, communion or company than a good marriage.
— Martin Luther

Hearing those words can be a major let down. It might not be fun to stay at home or doing something you might not like with your spouse.

These are the times it is important to focus on the good times. The times that made you love them more. And the FUNNY times.

When you think about the times you had with your spouse that were funny, laughter comes, smiles come, and joy comes.

Want an example? Here is the story of our engagement. Something we still laugh and smile over:

Pam and I were sitting on the couch at the motel she had worked at. I looked over at her and said “Babe, do you think we’re going to get married?” and she answered “Yeah, one of these days.”

I hopped on that and blurted out “Okay, good. Here’s a date range. Pick one for our wedding date.”

She looked at me like I was crazy. And I was crazy. Crazy in love with her.

After she regained herself, she picked the latest date possible. And she thought that was that.

A couple of months later I took her on a winter sleigh ride.

It was supposed to be romantic. The snow was supposed to be light and fluffy. A smooth ride on the sleigh.

Nope, not what happened.

It turned into a warm day and the snow started to melt. There were patches of slush. Lots of bumps during the sleigh ride.

Pam frequently thought the sleigh was going to tip. Thankfully that never happened!

And a sweet old man giving as our driver.

At one point he stops the sleigh and asks if we would like our picture taken. Of course I told him yes.

One problem, I left the camera in the truck.

He then tells us he will go up ahead and check the trail to make sure it the sleigh would be able to make it.

Up ahead he wanders and Pam mentions she feels bad for him. He might fall into a hole, get wet, or run into some wild animal.

She did not know this was all part of the plan.

I slip down on one knee and officially ask her to marry me. Thank God she said yes.

 

That is our crazy and funny engagement story. It reminds us to laugh at the silly times. Things will be okay. We will get through it.

Question: What is the funniest thing that has happened in one of your relationships? Please share your story in the comment section below.

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  • http://jonstolpe.com/ Jon Stolpe

    I’ve really only had one “romantic” relationship – the one to my wife. I had many “funny” (or embarrassing moments) during our courtship – like the time I slipped into the freezing cold creek waters at McConnell’s Mill when we were there commemorating the 1st anniversary of our 1st kiss. Or there’s the time when I fell off the banister at our college when I was trying to be slick. I could go on… but that’s enough for now.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Sounds like you fall a lot Jon! But I suppose you could play it off as “falling for her,” right?

  • http://www.theanalogoustruth.wordpress.com/ Arny

    ha! good story Joe! Awesome.

    Funny stories…hmm…riding around on dates in my moms huge grey Astro Van!!! lol…good times…goodtimes…

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Ouch, I never had dates like that but I could imagine them being funny.

  • http://tcavey.blogspot.com/ TCAvey

    My husband has dry humor, thankfully I think it is hysterical! He makes me laugh everyday- even when I don’t feel like it. I’m sorry I can’t think of one really funny story to tell because it seems as if our whole marriage is fun and funny. I feel very blessed to have him.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      That is awesome TC! Being able to laugh with your spouse is a must.

  • http://talesofwork.com/ kimanzi constable

    I meet my wife when I was 17 years old, working at Burger King. She was 19 and transfered in as a new manager. On her second day she fired me, 13 years of marriage later, we still laugh about it! God is good!

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Great story Kimanzi! It is amazing how things like that work out. Maybe she fired you because she didn’t want a work interfering with a relationship (-;

      • http://talesofwork.com/ kimanzi constable

        I wasn’t a manager but ran everything in the store. She thought I was too cocky and insubordinate. The firing didn’t last, the store manager over-ruled her! Maybe somewhere in the back of her mind she thought that way? LOL

  • http://thebeardedidealist.com/ Stephen Haggerty

    :) That’s an awesome engagement story, Joe… I like the reminder to remember to keep laughter in the marriage! Clutch.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Yeah, it’s something she never lets me forget. Especially me telling her to just “pick a date.” Think I surprised her more than anything.

  • Anonymous

    My wife and I make it a point to have fun and laugh often. Those time when my wife and I start to laugh because of an inside job or something only we can relate with or to. Those are the best times.

    I believe those who have fun and laugh together tend to stay together.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Yup, having things that only the two of you know creates a bond. It’s like a secret society.

      • Anonymous

        It’s great to have.

  • Bmwbear129

    My engagement story is bittersweet as he asked me at my 21st birthday party..you can only imagine the shape we were in….I asked if he was ever going to ask me to marry him and so he asked and I said yes. This seems cute until years later he confesses he told his best friend the next morning that he hoped I had been too drunk to remember he had asked! We laugh about it now, but boy was I mad for a moment:)

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