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You’ve probably felt the battle raging within you. To hold onto your beliefs. To boldly proclaim and do what you feel is right.

The world is crying out around you to do that what they believe to be true. All the while trying to pull you to their side and strip away your integrity.

There’s a battle happening. The battle to maintain our integrity while living in a world that beckons us with the desires of others.

Months ago I wrote a blog post with quotes from Nelson Mandela. I also shared leadership quotes from Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

While these posts received quite a bit of positive attention, there were also questions regarding the posts. Partially relating to maintaining your integrity while being told to tweet something one of these great men had said.

You Are Not A Tree

November 15, 2013 — 21 Comments

How many times do you get stuck in a routine you hate? Maybe it’s not a routine but a job you dislike?

Many people are of the mindset that they’re stuck in the job. They can’t move on.

Well, good news. You’re not a tree.

You are not a tree

Image by Louise Docker

A tree, for the most part, is unmovable. Once a tree’s roots have sunk into the soil and created a solid foundation, the tree is there until it’s dead. And then it falls over.

The same doesn’t have to apply to you.

If you don’t like how things are, change it! You’re not a tree.
— Jim Rohn: American entrepreneur, author and motivational speaker

In a job you can’t stand?

Quit. Take action. Find another job. Start a business. Don’t stand still.

You are not a tree.

Don’t like where you live?

Every leader will come to the point where he feels he can go no more. That he must give in to the exhaustion he is facing. But is this the proper course to take?

This is the question answered by Andy Andrews in the last decision of The Traveler’s Gift. I’ve shared with you the previous six decisions in past blog posts.

David Ponder nears the end of his journey as he receives the scroll from Gabriel with the decision to Persist Without Exception written on it. It’s a fitting end as David had not persisted without exception and that’s how he wound up traveling through time.

What Is Persisting Without Exception?

Persisting without exception is knowing the end goal. It is being unwilling to waver even when the situation seems daunting and scary. It means continuing despite exhaustion setting in.

We make thousands of decisions every day. It’s a natural part of life and decision making rarely is a conscious decision.

Even when we think we’re making a concerted effort to make a decision, there’s other factors at play. We’re not looking for the best answer. We’re looking for the answer that best fits our preconceived notions.

Daniel Kahneman, a Nobel Prize winner, put it in these terms

We give too much weight to the information that’s right in front of us, while failing to consider the information that’s just offstage.

Have you discovered this to be true?

Here’s what I’ve discovered. We’ve got a confirmation bias when decisions pop up in life. And our mental spotlight shifts to focus on one or two solutions.

The mental spotlight is so narrow that we miss out on the many other options that are available to us. Let’s walk through a few scenarios.

At one point or another, every leader has been burned by a relationship they’ve been involved it.

The souring of a business relationship, the pain and rejection felt at the ending of a romantic relationship, feelings of betrayal when an employee defects to another business. We’ve all been there and felt the sting.

There are those who will face the slight with an unforgiving heart. Resolving to hold onto the pain and use it against anyone and everyone who may do them harm.

They think this will protect them. Building a wall and barrier between them and the hurt or possibility of hurt.

Instead, they’re creating a heart of bitterness. Pushing people and opportunities away while holding on to past wrongs.

Andy Andrews discusses why we must be willing to greet the new day with a forgiving spirit as the sixth decision for success in The Traveler’s Gift.