Why Are You Building Relationships?

My heart has been heavy lately. I’ve reflected frequently on friendships and friendships lost. It seems more and more these days, friends come and go faster than they did before.

I think this is even truer in the online, influencer world.

Four men sitting on a mountain trail

Photo by Matheus Ferrero

There’s a reason for the friendships coming and going faster than they used to. People aren’t looking for true friends. They’re looking for stepping stones.

I hurt typing that. I know I’ve been in this position before. I’ve used people to get to the next level. And it’s not right.

When you use people, you hurt people. You take from them what benefits you and then you leave them. Many times, they’re left wondering what happened and where you went.

But you don’t have to be one of those people who see others as stepping stones. You can build true relationships. You can grow and stay friends with those you’ve created friendships with.

Don’t let your desire to become the next big thing prevent you from still caring for those you’ve left behind. They’ve believed in you. They’ve trusted you. And they’ve wanted the best for you.

The next time you create a new friendship ask yourself “Why am I building this relationship? Is it for friendship? Is it to benefit me? Or is it to benefit others?” When you ask yourself these questions, you will find out why you’re really building relationships.

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