Culture tells us that one does not need to lead himself before he can lead others.
There’s a lot of reasons behind this belief. People believe leaders don’t have to lead themselves because:
People can be better at getting others to do things they don’t want to do
As long as others are being moved forward, it doesn’t matter where the leader stands
Leading others doesn’t require you to lead yourself
Listening to these excuses you can see how thin and flimsy they are. These excuses for bad leadership skills are people grasping for reasons why they don’t lead well.
Why You Must Lead Yourself First
You are the example: People look for leaders who are leading themselves well first. No one wants to follow someone who has their life in shambles.
It doesn’t make sense to follow someone who can’t make sense of their own lives.
Rather, they’re looking for an example to follow. They want someone who has it more together, even if it’s only a little bit more than themselves, to take charge and move forward.
You need self-control: A portion of leading yourself is teaching yourself self-control. This means you don’t freak out over volatile situations and you don’t lash out at those around you.
Without leading yourself in this area, it’s hard to lead others.
You have to have something to give: You have to lead yourself to great content to consume. You have to lead yourself to great mentors to follow. You have to lead yourself to a deeper sense of wisdom.
To lead well, you must have something to give. To get something to give, you must be leading yourself to the wells of leadership inspiration.
Your leadership hinges on how well you lead yourself. When you lead yourself, you gain the insights into leading others.
Don’t think you get a free pass. It’s up to you to make sure you’re going in the right direction.