Have you ever been in a situation where a bad leader spoke up? He shared a vision isolated to himself. Or he chose to single out one employee and berate him.
Bad leaders tend to speak up when something is wrong. They focus on what isn’t working and choose to talk down to those they’re leading.
This is damaging. The organization hurts from the lack of good leadership. The team members hurt because of the hurtful words spewed from the mouth of the bad leader.
Then there’s the void left with the lack of a good leader nearby. Or, worse yet, maybe the good leader sits by idly and fails to speak up.
I know how hard it can be to speak up. The fear, the nerves, the voices inside of your head. Everything is telling you that you’re going to screw this up.
While you may have that little voice inside of your head telling you that you could mess this up, there’s something this voice isn’t telling you. The voice inside your head isn’t telling you what you’re saying about yourself when you fail to speak up.
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What You’re Saying About Yourself When You Fail To Speak Up
You may be surprised at what you’re saying when you don’t speak up. Your silence is speaking volumes to those you lead and who lead you. When you fail to speak up, you are saying: Read more...
- I don’t have anything to contribute
- My fear of being rejected is more than my excitement over this idea
Guys… There’s something I need to open up to you about. I struggle with an issue that affects my ability to lead well. It’s hard to admit this but I have difficulty speaking up and being heard.
Yup, you heard me right. I struggle to share my thoughts and opinions with those I work with and lead.
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How can this be? Don’t I share my thoughts and ideas on this website? Don’t I let people know how I feel through emails and social media? I do but speaking up and sharing on these platforms is different than speaking up and sharing in real life.
Has Your Voice Been Silenced?
I know I have a voice. I know YOU have a voice as well. But speaking up and using the voice we have? This can be scary. Read more...
It’s my belief that every leader should be writing. Whether it’s writing a blog like this one or writing a book, a leader who writes down his thoughts is able to touch more lives.
But a complaint that I often hear is that there’s no time to write. There’s no way I would be able to squeeze any more into my day.
While I don’t doubt your days are packed, I know you can still find time to create a consistent writing habit.
Before you call me out and say that I have more time than you, let me share what my average day looks like:
6:30AM – Wake up, get ready for the office
7:30AM – Leave for the office
8:00AM – Arrive at the office and begin my day
5:00PM – Leave the office and head home Read more...
Go back to yesterday, you probably dealt with someone you disagreed with. Or maybe tomorrow at Christmas dinner, you’re going to be confronted with a family member who shares his dissenting viewpoints.
Let’s face it. Every day we encounter people we don’t agree with.
Our gut reaction is to shut out people who disagree with us. We don’t want to hear their opposing views.
But we’re losing out when we shut out those who we disagree with. We’re missing an opportunity to engage and learn about someone else.
That’s why I want to talk about why we need to stop shutting out those you disagree with.
No one out there can honestly say they don’t have a viewpoint someone else may find offensive or disagreeable. Every person thinks in a unique way that may rub another person wrong. Read more...