The Funny Thing About Confidence

I recently had a conversation with a coworker about confidence. We came to an ironic conclusion.

Everyone is portraying themselves as confident. They have what it takes to get the job done. They are the ones you need to call if you need something done.

Confidence is a funny thing

Image by Evan Rummel

But is this really the case? Are people really confident?

I don’t believe they are. I know I’m not. Yet I can come across as confident.

There’s this facade we all put up to protect ourselves from the outward gazes of those looking at us. The facade is hurting us.

I’m Not Confident, No Really… I’m Not

When I look at the daily changes I have to face in my career, in my home, with my friends, I begin to quake. I don’t know if I have what it takes to take care of my job, my home, my family, and my friends. But I put up a front.

Your View Of Friendship Is Skewed

One thousand, eight hundred and thirty-seven. That’s the number of “friends” Facebook tells me that I have.

On one hand, it brings joy to my heart. There are 1,837 people that are connected to me on Facebook.

The other hand feels sadness. A longing for intimate relationships that I don’t get from Facebook.

Friendships aren't what you think

Do you have these conflicting thoughts too? One of glee and happiness. One that makes you feel so joyous because you’re connected to SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO many people.

And then reality smacks you upside your head and tells you that you really don’t have as many friends as Facebook tells you you do?

Facebook Has Messed Up The Truth Of Friendship

Something odd has happened over the last 12 years since Facebook was created. Our view of friendship has gone from those we’re close to and morphed into a catch-all term for everyone and anyone we’re acquaintances¬†we’re with.