Why You Need To Say No

As an ESFP-A on the Myers-Briggs personality test, I struggle with pleasing people.

I want to make people happy. I want to make sure everyone is having a good time.

In doing so, I have a hard time telling others no.

How to say no

Having this personality type doesn’t mean I can’t learn how to say no. I can and I’ve been working on saying no.

If you’re like me, let’s look at the reasons we need to say no.

Why You Need To Say No

I’m a free spirit. I’ll go where the wind pushes me.

That also means I’ll often go where others want me to and not where I want to. This can get you, and me, into trouble.

That’s why we need to learn to say no. But how do we say no?

How To Stop Over-Committing

Time is so valuable. Once we spend our time, it’s something we can never get back.

And yet so many of us are careless with how we spend our time. We’re treating time like it’s penny candy at Halloween.

We don’t keep track of it and we over-commit ourselves to activities that drain our energy.

Why do we do this? What can we do to stop over-committing.

Our commitment locks us in

Image via Michael Coghlan

With the new year getting into full swing, I believe it’s the perfect time to talk about our propensity to over-commit ourselves to causes.

If we want this year to be our best year ever, we’ve got to consider our time valuable and begin taking back our time.

Why We Over-Commit

There are many valid reasons why we over-commit. All of them good reasons and yet all of them hinder our path to success.