Becoming a disciplined leader takes hard work. You can see that through the previous articles in The Disciplined Leaders series.
You have to work hard to become disciplined. But the payoff is well worth the effort.
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Something amazing happens when you become a disciplined leader. You become a leader worth following.
The disciplined leader has shown he is worthy to be followed. Because he can follow.
There’s also another reason you want to become a disciplined leader. As you become disciplined, you learn truths. You discover things about yourself you never knew before.
Why You Want To Become A Disciplined Leader
You begin to discover:
1. You don’t have to listen to your feelings
Your feelings can get you into trouble if you listen to them and give in to every whim you have. Your feelings will tell you that you’re hurt or angry or can’t go on. Those feelings are a lie. Read more...
There’s an inner longing to be loved and adored. We all want people to like us. You even feel that way, right?
I’m pretty sure you desire to have people like you. I know I want people to like me.
But there’s a problem with wanting everyone to like you and be cool with you.
So, what’s the problem? Why shouldn’t we want everyone to be cool with what we’re doing?
That problem is simple. People are going to disagree with you.
Your ideas may not align with the beliefs of others. Your methods may be different from what has been seen. Your personality may rock people the wrong way.
And that’s okay!
Really, it is okay that you won’t click with everyone. We weren’t meant to. Read more...
Conflicts arise in every relationship. Whether it’s conflict with your spouse, conflict with a friend, or conflict with a team member.
Anger will arise. You’ll want to air your frustrations. You’ll want to kill the relationships.
Instead, I encourage you to deal with the conflict. Learn how to handle conflicts as they come at you.
In most instances, you’ll be able to reconcile and resolve the conflict. This is the ideal solution.
We want conflicts handled quickly and nicely.
If you do is up to you. Let’s first look at:
What Not To Do
Often when we’re faced with conflict, our minds begin to race. Anger can begin to seep in.
Resentment. Hatred. Hurt. Distrust.
These are some of the feelings you’ll probably feel.
What you don’t want to do is focus on these emotions. They’re deadly and will destroy your ability to lead effectively. Read more...
Everyday there are perfect moments happening.
They’re right in front of us but we let them pass us by.
What’s a perfect moment you ask? Andy Andrews talks about it in his free eBook The Perfect Moment.
It’s a moment in time that creates happiness and peace. Contentment and joy. It’s the little moments that form warm feelings.
You may think I’m crazy feeling this way. “There’s hardly anything perfect going on in my life” you may say. But I challenge you to look around.
Look at the small joys in your life:
- A romantic walk with your wife
- Your child’s beaming smile
- Finding the closest parking spot
- Watching the sunset over Lake Michigan
These may not seem like perfect moments when you first think about it. Take another look. I think you’ll see something different. Read more...
Have you ever been in this situation? There’s been a meeting schedule. Everyone is on-time except for the person who has scheduled the meeting? Or your friends have invited you out for dinner. Only they show up half an hour later with no explanation given.
How does that make you feel?
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Frustrated. Upset. Abused. Uncared for.
Emotions like these course through my body when others are late. I’m sure they do for you as well. It’s only natural.
But what if you’re the person who always runs late? Do you know that people view you in a negative light?
They may think:
- You don’t care about the people you made plans for
- You’re egotistical
- You can’t be trusted
- You are unreliable
Being late lands crushing blows to your reputation. Friends will fade away. Business deals could be lost. Relationships are strained. Read more...