We try to work on ourselves all the time. Trying to improve our knowledge. Trying to make our marriages better. And trying to make ourselves better leaders or employees.
We work, work, work on ourselves… Yet, the sad reality is, so few of us know who we truly are.
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We work on the person we believe we are. We fail to work on the person we are.
This trying to improve upon the mythical image we have of ourselves often drives us to depression, frustration, and regret. We work on something that we are not or are not yet and we struggle to make sense of why things aren’t working.
Our methods for improving ourselves aren’t working because we’re not working on the right person. We’re working on something that’s not real or true. Read more...
The start of a new year offers you the illusion of something special. A new start. A fresh start.
While there’s nothing different on January 1st than on July 7th (other than it’s Pam’s birthday), we tend to take special actions at the beginning of a new year.
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We set New Year Resolutions. We resolve to make big changes in our lives. Or we dream about what a different life would look like.
But why is January 1st the special day? It’s because we clear the sheets from last year and see the possibilities of a new year. We look at January 1st as special because the date helps us to make a clean break.
You don’t have to use January 1st to make your clean break. You can break free at any time and create a new you. Read more...
This past year might have been a year full of struggles. You may have faced overwhelming business challenges. You may have gone through a relationship breakup. Or you might have lost your home due to reasons beyond your control.
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But maybe last year wasn’t so bad. Maybe it was one of your best years ever. You may have finally discovered what you were created to do. There may have been a fantastic job transition which changed your life. Or maybe you welcomed your first child into your family.
Whatever last year brought you, you still want more in this new year. Who doesn’t? We always want to make the future better for ourselves and for those around us.
Don’t be ashamed for wanting more or better. This desire is natural and okay. Your desire for better will drive you to do your best to achieve all that you desire. Read more...
For many, the new year means a new beginning… Until February. Studies show 80% of New Year’s resolutions fail by the second week of February.
This is discouraging news. Especially for those of us who set New Year’s resolutions.
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You may have set a resolution to:
- Lose 40 pounds by July
- Learn a new craft or skill
- Treat your family members with more respect
- Start a new business
But by the second week of February, you’re feeling discouraged. The progress you thought you would have made by this point hasn’t been realized. You feel like a failure.
Why We Fail At New Year’s Resolutions
We get discouraged when we don’t see progress. We believe we should see extraordinary progress. Reality is you will see incremental progress. Read more...
Can you believe 2019 is just a few, short days away? Neither can I! This past year has flown by and I’m still trying to figure out where it went.
While 2018 was great for Pam and me, we never want to sit on our laurels. We always want to see bigger and better things for our lives and the lives of those we serve. That’s why I’ve been looking at ways to make 2019 my best year ever.
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What does that look like? Last year was already pretty epic. Some of the highlights from 2018 were: Read more...
- We had our first trip to California
- A job change increased my job satisfaction and take-home income
- I ran my first marathon
- We celebrated our 14th wedding anniversary