Have you ever been in a situation where a bad leader spoke up? He shared a vision isolated to himself. Or he chose to single out one employee and berate him.
Bad leaders tend to speak up when something is wrong. They focus on what isn’t working and choose to talk down to those they’re leading.
This is damaging. The organization hurts from the lack of good leadership. The team members hurt because of the hurtful words spewed from the mouth of the bad leader.
Then there’s the void left with the lack of a good leader nearby. Or, worse yet, maybe the good leader sits by idly and fails to speak up.
I know how hard it can be to speak up. The fear, the nerves, the voices inside of your head. Everything is telling you that you’re going to screw this up.
While you may have that little voice inside of your head telling you that you could mess this up, there’s something this voice isn’t telling you. The voice inside your head isn’t telling you what you’re saying about yourself when you fail to speak up.
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What You’re Saying About Yourself When You Fail To Speak Up
You may be surprised at what you’re saying when you don’t speak up. Your silence is speaking volumes to those you lead and who lead you. When you fail to speak up, you are saying: Read more...
- I don’t have anything to contribute
- My fear of being rejected is more than my excitement over this idea
Guys… There’s something I need to open up to you about. I struggle with an issue that affects my ability to lead well. It’s hard to admit this but I have difficulty speaking up and being heard.
Yup, you heard me right. I struggle to share my thoughts and opinions with those I work with and lead.
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How can this be? Don’t I share my thoughts and ideas on this website? Don’t I let people know how I feel through emails and social media? I do but speaking up and sharing on these platforms is different than speaking up and sharing in real life.
Has Your Voice Been Silenced?
I know I have a voice. I know YOU have a voice as well. But speaking up and using the voice we have? This can be scary. Read more...
If you want to improve your current situation, you have to begin choosing the right things. You won’t move towards your goals if you’re not focusing on the right items. And, to focus on the right things, you have to choose the right things.
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For me, the right things look like: Read more...
- My family: This includes my wife, my dog, my parents, siblings, etc… My family means a lot to me and I want to make sure I’m focusing on them.
- My physical health: I want to become a better person physically. I do this through running and some weight workout exercises. If my body gives out, I won’t be much good to anyone.
- My mental health: I know I can’t focus only on my physical health. My mental health is important as well. This means making sure what I’m putting into my mind is healthy and life-giving. It’s also making sure I deal with anger, depression, and other mental weights as they present themselves (Though I’m not always so good at doing this).
Our lives are packed with activities. From kids birthday parties to church obligations, your time is being pulled in a million different directions. Everyone wants a piece of you and your time!
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This tension for your time distracts you from what your heart desires and longs to do. You probably long to spend more time:
- With your spouse
- Playing with your dog (I know I do!)
- Watching your son play baseball
- Getting healthier
- Reading or watching enriching content
- Enjoying a non-fiction book or movie
- Fixing that leaking sink that’s bothered you for months
- Working on a side hustle
- Learning a new skill
Yet you can’t get to these things you long to do when you continually say yes to everyone else. You have to set aside your desires and longings to fulfill the desires of those you say yes to. Read more...