Stop Shoulding… Start Doing

Are you shoulding everywhere?

I far too often find myself shoulding. And I know I shouldn’t should myself.

You shouldn’t should yourself either. Shoulding yourself puts you in a bad spot.

Your shoulding is stopping you from greatness

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But what is shoulding? Shoulding is the act of saying “I should take care of my estimated taxes” or “I should spend more time with my wife. She really deserves my attention.”

Instead, we let those ideas be shoulds

And our relationships suffer. Our businesses suffer. Our personal health suffers.

Shoulding is a form of procrastination. One you should put to rest.

When you start saying “I should…” stop yourself. You’re about to wreck yourself.

You can change your “I shoulds” to “I wills” or “I ams.” The way we use our phrases impacts the actions we take.

The Challenges Of A Job Transition

I haven’t had a lot of experience with job transitions. However, the job transitions I’ve had, have exposed me to the challenges you will face when switching jobs.

Man facing first day at new job and the challenges he will face

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Most recently, I switched companies and experienced the challenges once more. Today, we’re going to talk about what challenges you’ll face as you transition to a new organization and what you can do about them.

The Excitement Of A Job Transition

Let’s be honest, when you choose to transition from one organization to another, the transition is exciting. You get to move into a new organization and help them thrive. Your expertise will change the company you’re going to.

That is exciting. You have new opportunities. New challenges. New relationships. And, hopefully, better pay.

These items make a job transition fun and exciting. You’re getting to move out and expand your horizons.

Rediscover Your Imagination

Do you remember what it was like growing up? I do… And I miss those days.

Not only because of the freedom I felt when I was riding my bike with friends. Or rollerblading down streets by myself trying to go faster.

Your imagination will be the path to solving your problems

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Those were great. But there’s something else I miss from my youthful days.

I miss the imagination I once had.

My imagination used to run wild. I would imagine myself as an astronaut. Flying into the dark abyss of space and discovering new worlds.

Or maybe it was the times playing G.I. Joe. I vividly remember Duke and Snake Eyes and Scarlett battling the evil Cobra. Snake Eyes would climb up the yellowed power cord of a light we had hanging in our living room.

Do You Need To Be Saved From Success?

I’ve recently begun pondering what success looks like again. Is it selling a million copies of Reel Leadership? Is it reaching 10 million people with my message on leadership? Or is it something else?

Success isn't what we think it is

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These thoughts have been running through my mind. They’re drawing me back to new questions all the time.

They’ve gone from the questions I only asked at the opening of this article to new questions…

How many lives have I impacted? Would I be okay with truly impacting only one life? Where does my energy need to be focused to be most effective? What does effectiveness really look like?

I don’t know. I really don’t. But I think I need to be saved from my idea of success. You need to as well.

The Best Time To Plant A Tree

An ancient Chinese proverb tells us that the best time to plant a tree was 20 ago. The second best time to plant a tree is now.

Such wise words that have carried through time. Yet we disregard this piece of knowledge time and again.

It's never too late to learn

How many times have you said: Ughh… I should have studied harder in school? Or I wish I would have learned how to play guitar when I was younger?

We’ve all got hobbies we wish we would have pursued years ago. If we had, we might have become talented in our pursuit.

But we didn’t. We can’t go back in time and change the fact we didn’t pursue something we love. We can change something else…

The Best Time Was Years Ago. The New Best Time Is Now

Whether it’s a hobby you failed to pursue or training in your chosen field, you’re older than you have ever been. You have the knowledge that you have. And you can’t change that.