Choosing The Right Things

If you want to improve your current situation, you have to begin choosing the right things. You won’t move towards your goals if you’re not focusing on the right items. And, to focus on the right things, you have to choose the right things.

Man making the tough choice at a vending machine

Photo by Victoriano Izquierdo

For me, the right things look like:

  • My family: This includes my wife, my dog, my parents, siblings, etc… My family means a lot to me and I want to make sure I’m focusing on them.
  • My physical health: I want to become a better person physically. I do this through running and some weight workout exercises. If my body gives out, I won’t be much good to anyone.
  • My mental health: I know I can’t focus only on my physical health. My mental health is important as well. This means making sure what I’m putting into my mind is healthy and life-giving. It’s also making sure I deal with anger, depression, and other mental weights as they present themselves (Though I’m not always so good at doing this).

Say No To Say Yes

Why No Is The Key To A Fulfilling Life

Our lives are packed with activities. From kids birthday parties to church obligations, your time is being pulled in a million different directions. Everyone wants a piece of you and your time!

No sign on the side of a brick building

Photo By Alex Rodriguez Santibanez

This tension for your time distracts you from what your heart desires and longs to do. You probably long to spend more time:

  • With your spouse
  • Playing with your dog (I know I do!)
  • Watching your son play baseball
  • Getting healthier
  • Reading or watching enriching content
  • Enjoying a non-fiction book or movie
  • Fixing that leaking sink that’s bothered you for months
  • Working on a side hustle
  • Learning a new skill

Yet you can’t get to these things you long to do when you continually say yes to everyone else. You have to set aside your desires and longings to fulfill the desires of those you say yes to.

You Can’t Keep Looking Back

If you want to move forward, you have to give up doing something. That something is looking back. Constantly looking back to the past will hinder you from moving forward.

From becoming a better husband. From being a better husband. And from being a better leader.

You have to stop looking to the past - Woman looking behind her

Photo by Roberto Nickson

It’s hard to look forward and away from the past. There are so many awesome things to look back upon.

You’ve accomplished so much. You’re proud of the time you took your wife to the perfect vacation spot and the time you spent there. Or you fondly recall the time you helped lead your team to win the sales competition in your department.

All good things! All things you should be proud of. But what happens when you constantly look back?

Take Care Of The Small Things

I was recently on my way to the Gateway Church for a Connect Group. Everything seemed okay until I drove onto the highway. Then, once I hit 60 MPH (not the 88 MPH it took the Delorean to time travel), my car began to violently shake.

Honestly, I thought my car was falling apart. The way it shook and sounded, you would’ve thought so as well.

Kia Soul blocked by snow

Photo by Victor Xok

Thankfully, my car wasn’t falling apart. But it did need some help. A small issue needed to be taken care of.

I pulled into the parking lot of another local church. I looked at my wheel wells and saw the problem. My wheel wells were packed with snow and ice. This had to be the cause of the problem.

I took out my trusty snow brush and ice scraper and began working to remove the excess snow. I worked my way around the whole care. Finally, I was free to continue my trip to church.

Stop Living A Groundhog Day Life

Tomorrow is Groundhog Day. Punxsutawney Phil will peek his head above the ground and tell us how many days of winter is left.

With it being Groundhog Day, do you remember the 1993 comedy Groundhog Day? The film starred Bill Murray as Phil Connors. He was a weatherman covering a groundhog day event and gets caught in a time loop where he relives the same day over and over and over again.

Stop living on repeat

Photo by Peter Clarkson

The film is funny. Seeing Phil relive the same day, again and again, is funny. What’s not funny is that you and I can live Phil’s repeated day and not even realize the trap we’re caught in.

Are You Living On Repeat?

I look at my life and see I get caught on repeat quite often. My daily schedule looks the same. I wake up at the same time, go to the same office for work, do the same thing for lunch, head home, spend time with Pam and Lok, and so forth.