You Can’t Keep Looking Back

If you want to move forward, you have to give up doing something. That something is looking back. Constantly looking back to the past will hinder you from moving forward.

From becoming a better husband. From being a better husband. And from being a better leader.

You have to stop looking to the past - Woman looking behind her

Photo by Roberto Nickson

It’s hard to look forward and away from the past. There are so many awesome things to look back upon.

You’ve accomplished so much. You’re proud of the time you took your wife to the perfect vacation spot and the time you spent there. Or you fondly recall the time you helped lead your team to win the sales competition in your department.

All good things! All things you should be proud of. But what happens when you constantly look back?

Take Care Of The Small Things

I was recently on my way to the Gateway Church for a Connect Group. Everything seemed okay until I drove onto the highway. Then, once I hit 60 MPH (not the 88 MPH it took the Delorean to time travel), my car began to violently shake.

Honestly, I thought my car was falling apart. The way it shook and sounded, you would’ve thought so as well.

Kia Soul blocked by snow

Photo by Victor Xok

Thankfully, my car wasn’t falling apart. But it did need some help. A small issue needed to be taken care of.

I pulled into the parking lot of another local church. I looked at my wheel wells and saw the problem. My wheel wells were packed with snow and ice. This had to be the cause of the problem.

I took out my trusty snow brush and ice scraper and began working to remove the excess snow. I worked my way around the whole care. Finally, I was free to continue my trip to church.

Stop Living A Groundhog Day Life

Tomorrow is Groundhog Day. Punxsutawney Phil will peek his head above the ground and tell us how many days of winter is left.

With it being Groundhog Day, do you remember the 1993 comedy Groundhog Day? The film starred Bill Murray as Phil Connors. He was a weatherman covering a groundhog day event and gets caught in a time loop where he relives the same day over and over and over again.

Stop living on repeat

Photo by Peter Clarkson

The film is funny. Seeing Phil relive the same day, again and again, is funny. What’s not funny is that you and I can live Phil’s repeated day and not even realize the trap we’re caught in.

Are You Living On Repeat?

I look at my life and see I get caught on repeat quite often. My daily schedule looks the same. I wake up at the same time, go to the same office for work, do the same thing for lunch, head home, spend time with Pam and Lok, and so forth.

Finding Yourself For The First Time

We try to work on ourselves all the time. Trying to improve our knowledge. Trying to make our marriages better. And trying to make ourselves better leaders or employees.

We work, work, work on ourselves… Yet, the sad reality is, so few of us know who we truly are.

You have to take time to find yourself

Photo by Bryan Minear

We work on the person we believe we are. We fail to work on the person we are.

This trying to improve upon the mythical image we have of ourselves often drives us to depression, frustration, and regret. We work on something that we are not or are not yet and we struggle to make sense of why things aren’t working.

Our methods for improving ourselves aren’t working because we’re not working on the right person. We’re working on something that’s not real or true.

But what would happen if we discovered who we are… Especially for the first time? I know things will change.

Discovering The Power Of Reinventing Yourself In A New Year

The start of a new year offers you the illusion of something special. A new start. A fresh start.

While there’s nothing different on January 1st than on July 7th (other than it’s Pam’s birthday), we tend to take special actions at the beginning of a new year.

You have the choice to make a difference

Photo by Adam Gong

We set New Year Resolutions. We resolve to make big changes in our lives. Or we dream about what a different life would look like.

But why is January 1st the special day? It’s because we clear the sheets from last year and see the possibilities of a new year. We look at January 1st as special because the date helps us to make a clean break.

You don’t have to use January 1st to make your clean break. You can break free at any time and create a new you.