Overcoming Your Resistance To Change

The mere mention of the word change sends shivers up the spines of those who are resistant to change. Do you know who those people are? They’re everyday, normal people like you or me.

Change is a scary word. I hated it for a long time. Change meant things weren’t going to be the same anymore. It meant friends moving away, people dying, job changes, bands breaking up, comic book series ending, new ways of doing business, and so much more.

Two grey wooden barn doors

Photo by Erol Ahmed

Change is a constant in life. We have to get used to change and learn how to overcome our resistance to change. You can’t do this without an intentional outlook on your life.

We’re going to look at ways you and I can fight against our resistance to change. We are going to find ways to become changemakers.

The Beauty Of Silence

I’ve found myself bombarded by constant noise. From podcasts to audiobooks to music… My life constantly has background noise.

I don’t mind the noise. I love hearing the melodic music or learning in automobile university. However, I made a conscious decision when I returned from a meeting with Concept A. I chose to let the last podcast episode run its course and then I would drive in silence (or as much silence as could in a car).

Purple sky with white clouds

Photo by Eric Muhr

By letting the podcasts, audiobooks, and music fade away, I was able to find a focus I’d long since lost. The constant noise in my life would let me focus. The silence, it allowed me to focus even more.

The Beauty Of Silence

I’m not sure many people would consider silence beautiful. Yet it is. There’s something magical and alluring about silence when we allow it into our lives.

Let It Go

Every person has been hurt at one point or another in their lives. Some people will hold onto these hurts longer than they should. I know… I was one of those people.

A young man holding his left shoulder in a black and white picture

Photo by Mitchell Hollander

Our past hurts will hurt us as long as we let them. They will fester and grow if we continue to feed them. And these hurts will cause us to hurt other people.

I’m not sure who said it but there’s a famous quote about hurt people. It goes:

Hurt people, hurt people.

Hurt People, Hurt People

This quote is true. Hurt people will hurt other people, either intentionally or unintentionally. The pain and bitterness one has from a past hurt will rise up and lash out at those you are near.

Your Enneagram Result Isn’t A Free Pass

I have a love-hate relationship with personality and motivational assessments. On one hand, they’re the best thing since sliced bread. The assessments allow us to look into ourselves and “see” who we are and what motivates us.

I know this. I’ve taken plenty of these assessments. From StrengthsFinders 2.0 to the Fingerprint 4 Success to the Myers-Briggs assessments, each test opened up my eyes to a new aspect of my personality and motivation.

Water drops falling into water

Photo by Ali Abdul Rahman

Taking the assessments, I can look at the results and agree with them. I can see where the results expose a truth about myself. But then the danger begins to creep in.

We can use these assessments to excuse our bad behaviors. We can say “I’m a Type One on the Enneagram. It’s okay that I’m abrasive ” or “My strength zone isn’t tending to the needs of others. I won’t do that.”

Your Voice Connects People

Every leader has a voice. Each voice is unique. That’s what makes it such a crying shame when you and other leaders fail to speak up.

You have a unique way of communicating your message. The way you share and the way you tell stories, you do in such a way that no one can copy you.

Stagehand in a Metallica shirt connecting with audience

Photo by Satria Aditya

And it’s awesome. It’s unique. It’s you!

Your Voice Connects People

More than having a unique voice, your voice does something no one else can. Your voice will connect people to your message. This comes from your unique perspective and communication style.

You might communicate loud and brash. Or you might be meek and mild. Still, you could fall somewhere in-between.

Wherever you fall in your communication style, someone connects with the way you communicate. This is powerful stuff.