Our lives are packed with activities. From kids birthday parties to church obligations, your time is being pulled in a million different directions. Everyone wants a piece of you and your time!
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This tension for your time distracts you from what your heart desires and longs to do. You probably long to spend more time:
- With your spouse
- Playing with your dog (I know I do!)
- Watching your son play baseball
- Getting healthier
- Reading or watching enriching content
- Enjoying a non-fiction book or movie
- Fixing that leaking sink that’s bothered you for months
- Working on a side hustle
- Learning a new skill
Yet you can’t get to these things you long to do when you continually say yes to everyone else. You have to set aside your desires and longings to fulfill the desires of those you say yes to.
Resolve To Say No
Saying yes to the desires of others isn’t bad. In fact, you are called to help and serve others. But when you constantly say yes to the demands of others and no to the longings of your heart, something gets mixed up.
Frustration builds. Resentment becomes a common feeling. Maybe you even begin to hate others!
This happens because we have failed to control our boundaries. We desire to please others so we say yes, yes, and yes again.
It’s not too late into the new year to set a new resolution. Let the new resolution be “No.”
By saying no to the whims of others, you can begin saying yes to you and the passions God has set in your heart. Learn to say no kindly.
Saying no will help you do some much-needed self-care. It’ll also help you feel less burdened.
No isn’t a four-letter word. No is a much-needed word.
With it, you’ll be able to take back your time, your energy, and your emotions. Learn to say no today.
Why Saying No Is Saying Yes
Every time you say yes to someone else’s idea, you’re saying no to something on your end. Your yes to another commitment at church may be a no to seeing Suzie dance in the school play.
Your yes makes you say no to your plans and desires. By saying “No,” you can then say “Yes” to the important things on your plate.
You can then spend more time
- With your spouse
- Playing with your dog (I know I do!)
- Watching your son play baseball
- Getting healthier
- Reading or watching enriching content
- Enjoying a non-fiction book or movie
- Fixing that leaking sink that’s bothered you for months
- Working on a side hustle
- Learning a new skill
Find ways to say no so you can say yes to you.
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