How You Say What You Say Matters
In our minds, we think we know the perfect thing to say. However, we do not always say it the way we imagine it.
I learned that one day while walking with my wife. We were walking past the beach and she mentioned how much she liked the sound of the water. “One day, I would like to live by the water. It would be nice to open the window and hear the water from our house.”
Now, I had a choice in how to respond. I chose the wrong response. I shot back a comment about how much it would cost to live by the lake.
After saying what I said, I knew I messed up. Instead of encouraging my wife to dream, I shot down a dream. It is not what I meant, but it is how it came out.