You Don’t Need More Of This

November 5, 2012 — 27 Comments
You Don’t Need More Of This | Joseph Lalonde

We often set goals for ourselves and fail. Goals such as losing 10 pounds, writing a best selling book, or being a better spouse. We fail…

We also blame it on a lack of self discipline. Claiming we need more of it. That’s a lie.

We don’t need more self discipline. We already have it.

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Don’t believe me? Let’s take a look at where we are already self disciplined.

  • We go to work on time
  • We eat breakfast, lunch, and dinner
  • We put ourselves to bed
  • We use the bathroom
  • We take care of our family
  • We pay bills

Sometimes we don’t want to do these tasks. They’re not fun. But we do them anyways.

Why?

Because YOU have self discipline. You’ve trained yourself to do the tasks that need to be done.

The problem isn’t a lack of self discipline. It’s something else.

“Hold yourself responsible for a higher standard than anybody else expects of you. Never excuse yourself. Never pity yourself. Be a hard master to yourself-and be lenient to everybody else.”
— Henry Ward Beecher

The Problem

What could this problem be? It’s the fact we don’t place enough value on the tasks that we don’t complete.

We know what needs to be done. We know the time table to complete it. We just don’t do it.

That shows it doesn’t have the value to motivate us to action.

The Solution

Good news fellow reader! There’s a solution to this horrible tragedy.

The solution is to place a higher value on the tasks that we’re not completing but want to.

That means you’ll need to:

  • Put in extra effort
  • Tell yourself it’s important
  • Set aside time
  • Get rid of old habits

Taking these steps will begin to place an importance upon what you want to accomplish. It will make the tasks important to you.

Until you’ve placed a higher value on the tasks you want to be doing, you’ll never get around to completing what needs to be done.

Question: What do you need to place a higher value upon? What will it do for your life? Please share your thoughts in the comment section below.

 

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  • http://jonstolpe.com/ Jon Stolpe

    I need to place a higher value on leading with love.  I guess it’s fresh in my mind after reading Love Works by Joel Manby.  But seriously, I want to lead intentionally in a way that demonstrates love for my team, my coworkers, my customers, and my family.  A deeper focus on this will drive change and achievement at new levels in all areas of my life.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      That’s a great thing to chase after Jon. Love changes a lot of things when we start acting on it and showing others that we love them. How you could begin to make that change in your life today?

      • http://jonstolpe.com/ Jon Stolpe

        I’m just getting ready to head into the office.  For me, the day will include time spent on employee survey feedback.  I think this is a great place to demonstrate love for my team members.  They need to know that their voices are heard and that management listens.  This is where I’ll start today.

        • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

          I can see that Jon. By taking in what they’re saying and giving a response, you’ll show them that someone is listening. A lot of the time that’s all anyone really wants.

          • http://jonstolpe.com/ Jon Stolpe

            I hope you are correct.  Sometimes it doesn’t seem to get through.  Have you had any experience with employee surveys?

            • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

              We’re actually going through an employee survey experience right now at work. The team doing the survey is excited and they’re getting anxious questions asking when the survey results will be back.

              I believe there’s two things that will need to be done to make our surveys successful.

              The first, a timely response and showing of the results. By showing the results to the employees it will show them that we value their opinions.

              The second is to act on the results of the survey.  If all we do is show the results and talk about how great they were, nothing changes. If we implement new programs and resources because of the results, things begin to change and improve.

              Keep me informed about how the survey works for you. I would love to hear what you did and how you used the information you gleaned from the results.

              • http://jonstolpe.com/ Jon Stolpe

                Sounds like a good idea for a blog post (for you or for me).  We’re definitely still learning though this process.  I think it sometimes feels like two steps forward and one step back.  I’ll be meeting with management over the next few weeks to discuss our next steps.  I know that we need to act promptly.  I’ll keep you posted as I can.

              • http://jonstolpe.com/ Jon Stolpe

                Will do, Joe.  We have a huge hurdle to jump in our office with making employees believe and understand that they are being heard.  I’m not sure if it’s the Philly area or an issue that started years ago with the people on our team.  I’m hoping that I can be a catalyst for positive change!

  • http://joeandancy.com/ Joe Abraham

    That’s a great solution, Joe! I believe you hit the nail on the head!

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Thanks Joe! How can you begin to apply these principles to your life?

  • http://intentionaltoday.com/ Ngina Otiende

    I like that last bit of getting rid of old habits. I try to look at goal setting as “forming new habits” instead of “goal-setting”.  it always helps with motivation :). Great thoughts here!

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Right on Ngina! 

  • http://tcavey.blogspot.com/ TCAvey

    I tend to be a workaholic. For me, God has been speaking the words “Be Still”. He’s been prioritizing my life for a while now…it’s painful and liberating. 

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      TC, that can be hard especially when you’re dedicated to your work. How has that changing of your priorities improved your life?

      • http://tcavey.blogspot.com/ TCAvey

        You’re really good at questions Joe but I don’t think I can answer this one in just a few sentences. So to sum it up…it’s been liberating. I am beginning to understanding resting in Jesus. Sorry I can’t give you a better answer.

        • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

           No problem TC. That’s a great answer. It’s encouraging to hear that others are finding the setting of priorities to be life changing. Keep it up!

  • http://www.brandongilliland.com/ Brandon Gilliland

    Great post! I needed to read this today. Recently, I have felt like I have failed a lot. Nothing seems to be going right. I know that God is still in control, and it is only a matter of time before He works His plan for my life. I guess I have to practice patience right now.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Patience is one of the hardest things we’ll learn in our lives Brandon. Sometimes you’ll be left wondering if you should be waiting or moving. I hope and pray things get moving in the right direction once again for you.

      • http://www.brandongilliland.com/ Brandon Gilliland

        Thanks!

  • http://danblackonleadership.com/ Dan Black

    My life is crazy with balancing work, family, and church. I need to make my writing, specifically completing my second eBook a bigger focus. I have been making it a priority and have been putting in the work. I work 10 hour day then spend time with my wife and son until around 9pm, after they go to sleep I focus on writing for a few hours. I try and do this 2-3 times a week(During those time I specifically focus on my eBook).

    Great post.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Wow, sounds like you really do have quite a bit on your plate, especially with the 10 hour days. Those can be brutal. 

    • http://twitter.com/ThomasTJTrent Thomas (TJ) Trent

      Dan,

      When I was home in Texas I had to strategically plan my time around my wife.  Since she works nights (she is a night owl and loves the night shift) I would made it a habit to arise at 0400 on her days off.  That often meant my days off required me to arise very early.  Thank God I am a morning person!  I would complete my work before she woke up and then we enjoyed the day together.

      • http://danblackonleadership.com/ Dan Black

        My wife and myself are complete opposite of you guys, she is the early riser and I’m the night owl. I make it a point to start writing or working on a personal/dream task after she and my son have fallen asleep. It has worked so far.

        It’s amazing how quite it can be early in the morning or late at night. It’s where the productivity really is maximized.

  • Jonathan

    Wow! So timely. I stayed up half the night last night completing reports for work that I had procrastinated on, not because I am not disciplined, but because I don’t value the paperwork. I should value it more because the procrastination puts me behind the things that I am really passionate about doing but don’t do because I am avoiding the things I don’t value but am responsible to complete.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      I’m glad this was able to resonate with you Jonathan. It’s great to see that you’re able to see where the bottleneck was. It wasn’t your dedication but your value on the project. How can you move forward and learn from this lesson?

  • http://twitter.com/ThomasTJTrent Thomas (TJ) Trent

    I need to focus on preparing my Warrant Officer Packet.  You were 100 percent correct; I have failed to properly value this item.  

    Thanks Joseph.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      You’re welcome Thomas. Warrant Officer Packer… That sounds interesting. Is that so you can serve warrants or is it something else?