Wave Your Hands Like You Just Don’t Care?

May 23, 2014 — 16 Comments
Wave Your Hands Like You Just Don’t Care? | Joseph Lalonde

My mind keeps wandering back to the song Word Up! by Cameo. The lyrics, wave your hands like you just don’t care, are drawing me in as I write this.

I don’t care today. My actions are showing how I feel.

And it’s not pretty.

Who doesn't care?

Image by Mike Baird

While I say this, I’m not sure it’s the truth. Do I really not care? Or is there something deeper, darker going on?

We all have days where we’re trapped in a funk. We feel like we just don’t care. We don’t want to deal with anyone.

You’ve been there, right? I’m not all alone here, am I?

Good, that’s what I thought.

When we’re in the position of “not caring,” we’re in a dangerous position. Our feelings betray us and tell us it’s okay to act out.

But, deep down, we know the truth. Acting out isn’t the solution. It’s a problem.

We’re better than giving into our negative feelings. We can do better than to show our disdain or lack of care.

So, let’s not wave our hands like we just don’t care.

We can care. We do care. We must care.

Make the decision today to change your attitude when you’re in the throes of the I don’t cares.

Question: How do you get out of the I Don’t Cares? I need your suggestions. Please share them in the comment section below.

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  • http://www.mattham.com/ Matt Ham

    Dude how can you not just giddy up when you hear Cameo! I’m gonna sing that song all day. It puts ‘Happy’ to shame. Word.

    As for caring, I’m reading through Corinthians. Think about Paul – taken from Christian hater to Jesus lover and gospel spreader. In his journey he was beaten, imprisoned, and yet, he says things like this.

    “We live by faith, not by sight”

    “For Christ’s love compels us, because we are convinced that one died for all, and therefore all died. That those who live should no longer live for themselves but for him who died for them and was raised again.”

    And, if you have a minute, grab your Bible and check out 2 Cor 6:4-10. Blew my socks off seeing his attitude as he approached his journey.

    You’re right – we must care because there’s so much more at stake than we can possibly fathom.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      That’s a great way to get out of the I Don’t Cares Matt. Digging into the Word and finding encouragement within can really make us Happy (-;

      Thanks for sharing the scriptures as well. I just finished reading 2 Cor 6:4-10 and it definitely cheers us on to be encouraged.

    • http://pioneeroutfitters.com/AlaskaChickBlog/ Amber-Lee Dibble

      Dude is right- but we seriously need to speak about your taste in music- BOTH of you! LOL

  • http://stevespring.org sespring

    Wow Joe, you missed the opportunity to provide us with a great video instead on a photo of a guy surfing…. I agree that we must care, but when we don’t, we need to ask God for His power to help us see things from his perspective and provide us with a way forward.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      You’re right Steve. I totally missed the boat on that one! Now you’ve got me doubting the use of the picture that I thought captured the essence of the post )-: But no worries. Maybe later in the day there will be a video posted.

  • http://www.qualitylivingmadesimple.com/ Joshua Rivers

    It helps me to realize that whatever “the funk” is, it doesn’t just affect me. It affects everyone – both that are directly involved, and even spills over to those that are standing nearby. “If I do _____, how does that impact ______.”

    Getting to the point of caring is just the first step. When you do care, sometimes the situation is so tender that you then struggle to find the right words and actions. You know that something has to be done, but you don’t want to make the wrong decision. Maybe this is partially because of my natural tendency to go “Ready, aim, aim, aim…fire.”

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      I think you’re onto something Joshua! You’ve realized a powerful principal.

  • Steve Daniel

    I’m typically a project driven guy, and I’m kind of the upbeat personality anyway, which makes my downturns even harder to break out of. When I get into the funk about the day or a particular project, I generally take a nap on break and give myself time to regroup, or more often, I’ll get involved with a project that I am passionate about and eventually the blahs go away. If I can’t find one, my boss generally sees the issue I guess because then he comes along with another project that only I can do.
    I know as a leader, I can’t have off times. People (not management) hold me to a different measure than most since I am the only salaried person in the production floor that isn’t management, I’m kinda in between the management and the rest of the folks. So hourly people associate me with management and since I’m big into the leadership and growing, they hold that against me to the point that if I do have an off day, people act as if I fake my personality and enthusiasm.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Steve, napping and finding a passionate point are awesome ways of breaking out of the funk.

  • http://www.jonstallings.com/ Jon Stallings

    That can be a tough one Joe. When we don’t care we have lost sight of our ultimate vision. Why were we doing this to begin with? If I don’t care, it becomes all about “me” This may sound strange but when I make it all about me, it usually means I am not taking care of myself. Be careful, this could be an early indicator of burnout. I find it a good time to put down what I am doing and walk away for bit. Take a nap, read something just for fun or do nothing at all. Of course, we don’t want to step away too long but we do have to take time to refuel. As we begin getting back in the groove take time to review your vision and mission. Remember the why you are doing this and not the result.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      That’s a fantastic observation Jon. Burnout can often be associated with just not caring. Thanks for bringing that to light.

  • http://kimanziconstable.com/ kimanzi constable

    Interesting :) Life is too short you just have to go for it and dance like a madman!

  • Lillian Moffitt

    I have found that, sometimes, for me at least, the “I don’t cares” are the lies the young one inside of me, who experienced rejection, abandonment, ridicule, and invalidation brings to the forefront when I face experiences which trigger and channel those experiences I never fully processed and put to rest. There are more times than I’d like to admit when she’s driving the bus because I got overwhelmed and distracted, thinking I need to be operating in survival mode.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Thanks for sharing Lillian. I think you may be onto something here.

  • http://pioneeroutfitters.com/AlaskaChickBlog/ Amber-Lee Dibble

    All I can add to your friends comments is I have found also that I am vulnerable to the “funk” when I am exhausted ~ physically and emotionally. My own fix? The Word, going for a ride on my horse- even just a short one and talk it over with him, splitting wood (YAY my splitter is fixed!!) and listening to AWESOME music turned up so loud- all I can do is sing along.
    Because really? I do care. We care, all of us. And I am not alone (thanks to all of you).

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com/ Joseph Lalonde

      You’ve got great things you go to to get out of the funk. Keep it up Amber-Lee!