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I’m pretty sure there’s not a person out there who hasn’t asked “Why me?” This question has almost become default for many people today.

Every time something bad happens, they automatically ask why bad things happen.

But asking Why Me won’t really help you. In fact, asking this question hinders you more often than anything else.

You might be asking yourself Why Me?

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We’ve got to begin shifting our mindsets and asking better questions. Why me has to be one of the least productive questions to ask yourself.

Why? I’m glad you asked. What you’ll find in this post is the answer to that question and why you need to stop asking Why Me?

1. Asking why me? places the focus on you: We’ve got to get over the thought the world revolves around us. It doesn’t. We’re just one more person on the rock that’s circling the sun.

The thought of poverty stirs up many images in my mind. The homeless man sitting outside of the local Wal-Mart. Tiny Tim in A Christmas Carol. The single mother working two jobs and still not making it work.

And lately my mind has wandered to leaders who are in poverty. Not monetary poverty but a mindset of poverty.

Ever met a poverty minded leader? I think you have and you’ll probably recognize him after this post.

Poverty mindsets can ruin you

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What Is A Poverty Mindset?

Let’s begin with this. What is a poverty mindset? What does it mean and what does it do to you?

A poverty mindset means:

Believing there will never be enough

Someone is always out to get what you have

Seeing life as a constant struggle

Decisions are based on fear

Every leader will come to the point where he feels he can go no more. That he must give in to the exhaustion he is facing. But is this the proper course to take?

This is the question answered by Andy Andrews in the last decision of The Traveler’s Gift. I’ve shared with you the previous six decisions in past blog posts.

David Ponder nears the end of his journey as he receives the scroll from Gabriel with the decision to Persist Without Exception written on it. It’s a fitting end as David had not persisted without exception and that’s how he wound up traveling through time.

What Is Persisting Without Exception?

Persisting without exception is knowing the end goal. It is being unwilling to waver even when the situation seems daunting and scary. It means continuing despite exhaustion setting in.

At one point or another, every leader has been burned by a relationship they’ve been involved it.

The souring of a business relationship, the pain and rejection felt at the ending of a romantic relationship, feelings of betrayal when an employee defects to another business. We’ve all been there and felt the sting.

There are those who will face the slight with an unforgiving heart. Resolving to hold onto the pain and use it against anyone and everyone who may do them harm.

They think this will protect them. Building a wall and barrier between them and the hurt or possibility of hurt.

Instead, they’re creating a heart of bitterness. Pushing people and opportunities away while holding on to past wrongs.

Andy Andrews discusses why we must be willing to greet the new day with a forgiving spirit as the sixth decision for success in The Traveler’s Gift.

Choosing To Be Happy

March 29, 2013 — 52 Comments

Each and every day we have a choice. That choice:

Whether to be happy or not.

This is a continuation of my examination of Andy Andrew‘s 7 Decisions from The Traveler’s Gift.  Today I Choose To Be Happy is the 5th decision. Maybe the most important.

Can You Really Choose To Be Happy?

You may be asking yourself that question. Is it really possible to choose happiness?

You can and there’s ways to make this decision easier.

But my life’s not perfect. I’ve done things that create sadness in my life. My home life is terrible. My job is miserable. There’s no way I could choose to be happy in the situations I face daily.

This is where we mess up and destroy our chance of being happy. We’ve let our circumstances dictate whether or not we will be joyful.