Archives For Self-Improvement

The original title for this blog post was going to be Becoming A Better Person. Then I sat and thought about the blog title and knew it wasn’t right. The direction was wrong and I felt like I’d be doing you a disservice to write that type of article.

Instead, I wanted to share you don’t want to become a better person.

Share your art like Pop's from Speed Racer

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Now, I know you’re probably scratching your head wondering why in the world you shouldn’t want to become a better person. I had the same thought as I began to write this post.

Becoming a better person sounds like a great idea. Who doesn’t want to become better?

Don’t Become A Better Person

There’s a problem with the phrase “a better person.” Can you spot it or do you know what the problem is?

Are you tired? Worn out? Ready to give up?

It’s okay to feel this way. This feeling is a warning system. Your mind and body are telling you it’s time for a change.

Are you listening?

You better be listening. If not, you’re heading for disaster. You’ll wind up just like you did this year.

The good news is you can change the path you’re on. Actually, we can change the path we’re on.

You’re not alone in the journey. You’re not the only one looking for change.

I’m looking to improve myself. Other readers are looking to change their lives. Everyone is looking for a little extra.

So how can we change our lives this year? What can we do to make our lives better?

I’ve come up with 3 ways you, and I, can change our lives in this new year.

Is there anything uglier than a jealous leader? A leader who has to be in control all of the time. Who can’t trust his team to do their job. Someone who has to oversee every little detail.

I’m not sure there is. And, as a leader, you better be sure you’re working to rid yourself of jealous.

Leaders can overcome jealousy. It’s possible, and I know you can do it.

The jealous green monsters

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So, how does a leader overcome jealousy? It’s going to take focus. You’re going to have to be an intentional leader as jealousy can creep in undetected.

That’s what causes the downfall of so many leaders. They’re willing to give into jealousy and destroy their ability to influence positively.

Jealousy is a disease that will eat away at you. You’ll neglect relationships. You’ll hold on too tight. You’ll find yourself frustrated all of the time.

There’s not a person out there who doesn’t want to improve their lives. It’s engrained in us. We want to be the best that we can be.

So why do so few of us actually take the needed steps to improve our lives?

Do amazing things

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Much like anything else in life, I think the answer is we over complicate what really needs to be done to be better.

We formulate grand schemes. We layout everything at once. We look at the big picture.

And then we get hit with the overwhelm.

Taking a look at the overall plan, we see no way to better ourselves. We become paralyzed with analysis paralysis.

Just like our answers should be simple, we can break down a better you through baby steps. Eventually, the baby steps will snowball into breakthrough.

Great leaders know they need to stay motivated. They need to have their head in the game and be willing to go to the front.

And yet there are times when we lack motivation. We want to give in and quit.

Image by Kenny Louie

Image by Kenny Louie

I’ve seen this time and again as a youth leader. We’ll bring new staff members on board only to see them slip away and drop out of their leadership position.

This dropping away happens from a lack of motivation. They’re no longer seeing what they once enjoyed and brought happiness to their lives.

Instead it’s become dull and drab. A burden to carry or toss away. It’s up to them but we see them giving up.

In The Importance of Discovering The Proper Motivation, I wrote that the proper motivation should be to help others become better. I still believe this.