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Our good friend John Maxwell has always said that leadership is influence. I firmly believe that.

Leading requires us to have a certain amount of influence on others. Yet we’ve also mistaken what influence truly is.

Influence is often unseen

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What Influence Isn’t

Influence isn’t getting others to do what you want them to do.

Influence isn’t controlling others.

Influence isn’t forcing people to do your will.

Influence isn’t manipulating others.

Influence isn’t showing off.

Influence isn’t a Klout score

Influence isn’t is the number of followers you have.

There are so many things that leadership is but the above isn’t true influence.

What Influence Is

Influence is impacting lives.

Influence is making a difference in the lives of others.

Influence is showing how much you care.

Influence is taking the time to do something nice for another person.

Why We Need Community

July 3, 2015 — 4 Comments

I’ve always believed that community is important. We must live and interact with others if we want to truly thrive.

The sad truth is, I haven’t lived this well recently.

Over the past year or so, my relationships with others have fallen by the wayside. Replaced with work or my inner thoughts.

It’s a struggle I’ve had and I’m not ashamed to admit.

Why Community?

Community is a powerful thing. Community is there to hold you up. Community is there to hold you accountable. Community is there to back you.

Something truly spectacular happens when we begin entering into relationships with those around us. We begin to experience who we truly are.

Desmond Tutu said:

A person is a person through other persons

Andy Snyder put community this way:

We need others to help us become ourselves

We’ve all been subject to the leader who wasn’t approachable. And that made our jobs miserable.

That’s why we’ve got to be aware of what makes a leader approachable. We’ve also got to implement the actions of approachable leaders.

The keys to approachability are here

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What Is An Approachable Leader?

This is a million dollar question. What makes a leader approachable? What does an approachable leader do?

Approachable leaders take a different kind of approach to leadership than those concerned about appearance or fame. They know leadership goes deeper than the surface.

Approachable leaders are leaders you feel comfortable going to. This type of leader makes you realize he is there for you. He’s ready to listen and hear you out.

This is what an approachable leader is.

There’s a power that is unleashed when we connect with others, whether they’re in our industry or not. By creating a relationship with other leaders, we can potentially extend our networks to untold numbers.

And yet many of us struggle with connecting with other leaders, especially introverts who can have social anxiety. That’s why I want to share today 4 ways we can connect with other leaders (And this includes ways even introverts can apply).

There's power in connection

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Who here likes to connect with others? Going out, making friendships, getting to know others? I’m imagining those hands you’re raising. I’m also picturing those who are cringing at the thought of initiating a conversation with a new person or getting in front of a crowd.

Daunting, I know. Connecting with new people can zap a lot of your energy.

Everyone’s got advice on how to live a better life or how to live a life worth living. There’s a spin here, there, and everywhere on this age-old question.

Come on now.. Who doesn’t want to live a better life? I think the answer is NO ONE.

The Wrong Question To Ask

If you talk to a lot of people about living a great life and how you live that great life, you’ll often here one answer.

Live like today is your last day on earth.

They’ll often turn that into a question.

What would you do if you knew today was the day you died?

This sounds like a great question to ask. You’ll run through the scenarios of the last moments of your life and the things you want to do before you die.