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Today, I am writing as a contributor to the Christian Writers Blog Chain. The theme for February is “Leap.” If you are a Christian author or writer, be sure to check out Christianwriters.com to network with others.
 
It recently hit me that change is a lot like skydiving. Yeah, skydiving.
 
You are probably asking yourself “Skydiving? What can skydiving teach me about change?”
 
After my first skydive in 2011, I can say it can teach you quite a bit.
 


 
Imagine taking a plane ride. You are in a tiny Cessna airplane. It fits three people comfortably, if you are lucky. This trip, there are five people in the plane. A pilot, two instructors, another person, and yourself.
 
As you take off the plane is loud. Rolling on the runway it is bumpy and rough. You wonder if the plane will be able to lift into the air.
 
It does and you start circling. Up and up you go. The ground below grows further away.
 
Twenty minutes into the flight you are 11,000 feet into the air.
 
The plane is now warm, almost unbearably so. All of a sudden one of the instructors reaches over and opens the door to the plane.
 
Air rushes in, quickly cooling the plane. It creates noise, it sounds like you are in the eye of a hurricane.
 
You and your instructor (who is attached to your back) scoot towards the open door.
 
Now you have a decision to make. Do you leap or do you stay in the plane?
 
I chose to leap. I did not regret it.
 
Whether it be skydiving or change, I think you should take the leap.
 
Here is what I learned from taking that leap
 
  • You may be scared
    Leaping out of a plane can be scary. As you scoot yourself to the door, you are told to place your feet on a small square. You can now see the ground and there is nothing holding you back from it.
     
    Your instructor then tells you to rock back and forth three times and to go out on the third rock. You are now free falling.
     
    It is a scary yet exhilarating experience.
     
    With change, the same feelings can be felt.
     
    You know what has to happen but you will not be in total control. Things could go wrong.
     
    You are scared and that is okay.
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When you get married, your focus shifts from yourself to your spouse. It is one of the most important relationships that you will have. Your relationship with your spouse will also affect the quality of your leadership.

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In EntreLeadership, Dave Ramsey talks about the spousal interview. During the hiring process Dave will require an interview with the spouse of the prospective employee. He does this to see if the prospect is married to ‘crazy.’ That is someone who makes life miserable, has a bad attitude, or is high maintenance.

Your spouse requires a lot of time and effort. Crazy spouses and bad relationships require even more time and effort.

If you have a crazy spouse it will drain on your leadership skills.

Nagging, bickering, and pettiness will drain your energy.

Your focus will be off. It will be on her and keeping her happy rather than leading to the best of your ability.

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One of the most influential books I have read has to be How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. How To Win Friends and Influence People was originally published in 1936. Today, it is still highly regarded as a must read book for communicators.

How To Win Friends and Influence People has been reprinted many times. The copy I read was published in 1981.

With the help of Dale’s wife, Dorothy Carnegie, it has been revised to include more modern examples of people who have applied the principles in the book. If you find differences in my review from the book you have, this may be why.