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2 Leadership Scorecards

March 10, 2014 — 16 Comments

Recently I had a dream. This dream wasn’t crazy. It didn’t involve red aliens attacking from Mars.

Nah, nothing like that. Though that would have been one heck of a dream.

This dream had to do with a scorecard. A leadership scorecard. Actually, truth be told, there were 2.

The first scorecard looked something like this:

X Ignores team members

X Discards the needs of his team

X Shuns the input of his team

X Refuses to accept responsibilities for failures

X Has become complacent with his level of knowledge

X Hasn’t presented a new idea in ages

X Chooses the old ways over new paths

X Hires people who he believes knows less than he does

X Takes away any chance of organizational advancement

Now, the second scorecard looked quite different. The second scorecard looked like this:

It’s often been said people won’t care what you have to say until they know how much you care. While a short quote, this little statement speaks volumes to the power of feeling cared for.

I believe one of the best ways we can show others we care is by talking less.

Is it time to shut your mouth?

Image by David Geohring

But how can this be? Can we really show others we care when we zip our lips?

In a recent Success Magazine article, Adam Sher, CEO of Ryan Seacrest Productions, said this about Ryan:

Ryan listens to what people are saying and has an uncanny ability to understand where they’re coming from and what they really want. In meetings, he spends much more time listening and taking notes than he does talking.

From the same article, Larry King says this about Seacrest:

Words Will Fail You

August 30, 2013 — 21 Comments

Humans communicate so much through the words they use. We use Twitter, Facebook updates, text messages, blog posts, speech.

There is so much effort poured into the words we say. Sadly, at one point or another, words will fail you. Situations will arise where words are meaningless.

Worn out man, words have failed him

Image by Lucas Incas

I found this to be true during and after my wife and I had to make the difficult choice to put our dog down. People tried to comfort us with their words.

We heard:

You’ll feel better over time

You made the right choice

You did what needed to be done

You loved him and he loved you

You know, all of those words were true. Things have gotten better. We believe we made the right choice. We believe we did what had to be done. And we sure did love him.

Have you ever had a sick child or spouse? You wanted to see them made well, to feel better, to be cured.

Now think about a bad leader you’ve been under. Did you want the same for them?

Image by Nils Geylen

Image by Nils Geylen

Probably not. I know I haven’t.

Instead of seeing improved leadership, there have been times I’ve wanted bad leaders gone. Out on the streets and out of a leadership position.

Looking back, I’ve come to realize this isn’t the proper attitude to have.

The Right Attitude To Have With Bad Leadership

Let’s be honest. Bad leadership is difficult to deal with. Team members are frustrated. Resources are stretched. You come to a breaking point.

It’s easy to look at the person who’s leading poorly and want them out.

Everyone wants to be effective as a leader. You want to have a team that will accomplish the task set before them. However, many leadership struggle to be effective.

I believe there’s five areas leaders struggle with and which causes ineffective leadership. Most of the times ineffective leadership slowly slips in. Before we know it, we’re wondering why no one is following anymore.

When we discover our leadership is ineffective, you might say our leadership is as useless as a screen door on a submarine (Thanks for the beautiful words Rich Mullins).

What are these reasons you ask? Well, here are my top 5 reasons on why your leadership is ineffective.