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The World Keeps Changing

October 23, 2015 — 7 Comments

Only a few things are guaranteed in this life of ours.

We are guaranteed that one day we will day. And we are guaranteed there will be change.

Change Comes In Many Different Forms

You never know where change will come from. It seems like it was out of left field.

Sometimes the change will hit you like a train wreck.

Over the last couple of years, Pam and I have seen 2 youth pastors leave the church we were attending, we’ve left a church I’ve attended for almost 30 years, we lost one of our dogs, and so much more.

Change is quite. Change is shocking. Change is painful.

And sometimes change is good. Change can be refreshing. Change can be joyful.

You might see change in the growth of your child. You might experience change when you leave a bad job for your dream job.

Find A Pain Partner

August 7, 2015 — 2 Comments

In my interview with former pastor Sam Chand, we talked about finding a pain partner to walk through life with.

Ever since this interview, this idea has really intrigued me.

What Is A Pain Partner?

You’ve got to settle on your own definition of what a pain partner is. It’s unique to every person and how they want to live out their lives.

For me, my pain partner will:

Be willing to listen to me when I hurt

Be someone I can open up to about difficult situations in life

Be a person I can call day or night

Be understanding that we all fail at one point or another

Be able to listen without judgement

Your pain partner needs to be someone you can trust and someone you can contact at any time.

Over the last couple of years it seems my wife and I’s lives have been turned inside out.

We lost a beloved dog. A great mentor of ours moved from youth pastor to senior pastor at a different church. Another leader we knew had to be removed from his position of leadership..

you will face difficult times of change

To top things off, we made the difficult choice to resign our position as youth leaders and leave a church we’d attended for years. Talk about rough! And talk about change.

These changes have not been easy. These changes have not been pleasant.

But the changes we’ve faced have taught us what to do when we’re faced with change and when that change is difficult.

Pray: The first thing you need to do when you’re faced with difficult change is to begin to pray. Pray for guidance. Pray for wisdom. Pray for peace. Pray for hope. Pray for signs.

Make Every Day Special

March 13, 2015 — 7 Comments

Ruts are easy to get into.

We begin with thinking that everyone is out to get us or maybe it’s that no one is for you. We let the negative thoughts slip into our minds.

Doing so hurts us in more ways than one. But a major way our negative thoughts robs us is in the way it makes our days less special.

What makes your day special?

Simple pleasures make every day special

Every Day Is Special

Even in the mundaneness of our days, each day we have is something marvelous.

Most of us are able to run and jump and play and have fun. We are able to take deep breaths of fresh air. We’re able to look up and see the bright blue sky or the awe-inspiring darkness of night.

Time is so valuable. Once we spend our time, it’s something we can never get back.

And yet so many of us are careless with how we spend our time. We’re treating time like it’s penny candy at Halloween.

We don’t keep track of it and we over-commit ourselves to activities that drain our energy.

Why do we do this? What can we do to stop over-committing.

Our commitment locks us in

Image via Michael Coghlan

With the new year getting into full swing, I believe it’s the perfect time to talk about our propensity to over-commit ourselves to causes.

If we want this year to be our best year ever, we’ve got to consider our time valuable and begin taking back our time.

Why We Over-Commit

There are many valid reasons why we over-commit. All of them good reasons and yet all of them hinder our path to success.