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You’ve probably noticed a sad trend in the world. And it revolves around conversation. Or the lack thereof.

Walking into a restaurant, you see it. Husband and wife, both have heads buried in their phones. Frantically texting back and forth. But not with each other.

Or a high school party. Boys and girls are on their phones. Texting away. Just not with anyone attending the party.

True Conversations Are Dangerous

Author Ian Cron stated:

The dangerous stuff comes out in the discussions

At the Catalyst Conference in Atlanta in 2014. This line struck me.

It’s also made me realize that we avoid conversations. Especially the deep, life-changing conversations we long for.

Rather, we substitute true conversation for quick quibbles.

We ask each other how we’re doing. While passing by like strangers in the wind.

Time is so valuable. Once we spend our time, it’s something we can never get back.

And yet so many of us are careless with how we spend our time. We’re treating time like it’s penny candy at Halloween.

We don’t keep track of it and we over-commit ourselves to activities that drain our energy.

Why do we do this? What can we do to stop over-committing.

Our commitment locks us in

Image via Michael Coghlan

With the new year getting into full swing, I believe it’s the perfect time to talk about our propensity to over-commit ourselves to causes.

If we want this year to be our best year ever, we’ve got to consider our time valuable and begin taking back our time.

Why We Over-Commit

There are many valid reasons why we over-commit. All of them good reasons and yet all of them hinder our path to success.

And there came a day, a day unlike any other… when Earth’s mightiest heroes found themselves united against a common threat… to fight the foes no single superhero could withstand… on that day, The Avengers were born.
— Nick Fury

 

Last Friday Marvel released their blockbuster hit The Avengers. It opened to rave reviews and has broken box office records.

But that’s not all. It tells the story Earth’s mightiest heroes.

The last couple of years we have seen the individual stories of the Avengers. Captain America, Iron Man, The Incredible Hulk, and Thor have all stared in their own movies and faced battles that only they could win.

There is a new threat. These great superheroes are faced with a challenge none of them can defeat by themselves. Thus, Nick Fury has formed the Avengers Initiative. A team of what is to be Earth’s mightiest heroes. A team that the world needs desperately.

Have you ever had one of those weeks where you feel you can’t go on? Or just don’t want to?

We all have those times when life beats us down.

You may have faced criticism on your blog. You may have had to close your business. Or you may have experienced a great loss.

Times like those are hard. No doubt about it.
 

Run down

Image via Guillaume Pasquet

But there is great news. It’s not the end of the line for you.

You can and must make the decision to continue.

How can you do this?

  • Examine the situation:
    Take a good look at the situation.
     
    What went wrong? How could this have been prevented? What do I need to change?

    Use this as a learning experience. Choose to fix the faults that you can.

    This situation can be used to sharpen your skills and propel yourself forward.

Today, I am writing as a contributor to the Christian Writers Blog Chain. The theme for March is “Savor.” If you are a Christian author or writer, be sure to check out Christianwriters.com to network with others.

The statistics for marriages can be downright disappointing.

Divorce is widespread. Affairs and flings appear to be common. Married couples are at an all-time low.

It may seem that marriages are dying and yours may be next.

But that doesn’t have to be the case. You can have an amazing marriage. It just takes a little bit of work.

Are you willing to put in the effort?

Statue of a couple in Denmark

Photograph by Derpunk

More marriages might survive if the partners realized that sometimes the better comes after the worse.
— Doug Larson

Here are five ways to save your marriage and savor the relationship: