Archives For Friendship

Is there a sadder thing than a man who believes he has die-hard friends only to discover those friends really weren’t his friends?

People believe they have great friendships all the time. These so-called friends lap praise upon praise. They’re told they can do no wrong…

What is a true friend?

My question: Is that really a friendship? Or is it a recipe for disaster?

Real Friends Do This

Having people who tell you how great you are, feels good. Real good.

Our egos get a boost. We feel like we’re on cloud 9. We might be.

And real friends do give us compliments and encourage us. They tell us when we’re doing good. When we’re rocking it.

Real friends also do something else.

When we have true-blue friends, they know us well enough to call us out on the carpet.

You’ve probably noticed a sad trend in the world. And it revolves around conversation. Or the lack thereof.

Walking into a restaurant, you see it. Husband and wife, both have heads buried in their phones. Frantically texting back and forth. But not with each other.

Or a high school party. Boys and girls are on their phones. Texting away. Just not with anyone attending the party.

True Conversations Are Dangerous

Author Ian Cron stated:

The dangerous stuff comes out in the discussions

At the Catalyst Conference in Atlanta in 2014. This line struck me.

It’s also made me realize that we avoid conversations. Especially the deep, life-changing conversations we long for.

Rather, we substitute true conversation for quick quibbles.

We ask each other how we’re doing. While passing by like strangers in the wind.

Time is so valuable. Once we spend our time, it’s something we can never get back.

And yet so many of us are careless with how we spend our time. We’re treating time like it’s penny candy at Halloween.

We don’t keep track of it and we over-commit ourselves to activities that drain our energy.

Why do we do this? What can we do to stop over-committing.

Our commitment locks us in

Image via Michael Coghlan

With the new year getting into full swing, I believe it’s the perfect time to talk about our propensity to over-commit ourselves to causes.

If we want this year to be our best year ever, we’ve got to consider our time valuable and begin taking back our time.

Why We Over-Commit

There are many valid reasons why we over-commit. All of them good reasons and yet all of them hinder our path to success.

And there came a day, a day unlike any other… when Earth’s mightiest heroes found themselves united against a common threat… to fight the foes no single superhero could withstand… on that day, The Avengers were born.
— Nick Fury


Last Friday Marvel released their blockbuster hit The Avengers. It opened to rave reviews and has broken box office records.

But that’s not all. It tells the story Earth’s mightiest heroes.

The last couple of years we have seen the individual stories of the Avengers. Captain America, Iron Man, The Incredible Hulk, and Thor have all stared in their own movies and faced battles that only they could win.

There is a new threat. These great superheroes are faced with a challenge none of them can defeat by themselves. Thus, Nick Fury has formed the Avengers Initiative. A team of what is to be Earth’s mightiest heroes. A team that the world needs desperately.

Have you ever had one of those weeks where you feel you can’t go on? Or just don’t want to?

We all have those times when life beats us down.

You may have faced criticism on your blog. You may have had to close your business. Or you may have experienced a great loss.

Times like those are hard. No doubt about it.

Run down

Image via Guillaume Pasquet

But there is great news. It’s not the end of the line for you.

You can and must make the decision to continue.

How can you do this?

  • Examine the situation:
    Take a good look at the situation.
    What went wrong? How could this have been prevented? What do I need to change?

    Use this as a learning experience. Choose to fix the faults that you can.

    This situation can be used to sharpen your skills and propel yourself forward.