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Conflicts arise in every relationship. Whether it’s conflict with your spouse, conflict with a friend, or conflict with a team member.

Anger will arise. You’ll want to air your frustrations. You’ll want to kill the relationships.

Instead, I encourage you to deal with the conflict. Learn how to handle conflicts as they come at you.

Image by Louis K.

Image by Louis K.

In most instances, you’ll be able to reconcile and resolve the conflict. This is the ideal solution.

We want conflicts handled quickly and nicely.

If you do is up to you. Let’s first look at:

What Not To Do

Often when we’re faced with conflict, our minds begin to race. Anger can begin to seep in.

Resentment. Hatred. Hurt. Distrust.

These are some of the feelings you’ll probably feel.

What you don’t want to do is focus on these emotions. They’re deadly and will destroy your ability to lead effectively.

Everyday there are perfect moments happening.

They’re right in front of us but we let them pass us by.

Lake Michigan Sunset

Image by Rachel Kramer

What’s a perfect moment you ask? Andy Andrews talks about it in his free eBook The Perfect Moment.

It’s a moment in time that creates happiness and peace. Contentment and joy. It’s the little moments that form warm feelings.

You may think I’m crazy feeling this way. “There’s hardly anything perfect going on in my life” you may say. But I challenge you to look around.

Look at the small joys in your life:

  • A romantic walk with your wife
  • Your child’s beaming smile
  • Finding the closest parking spot
  • Watching the sunset over Lake Michigan

These may not seem like perfect moments when you first think about it. Take another look. I think you’ll see something different.

Stop Being Late

August 29, 2012 — 32 Comments

Have you ever been in this situation? There’s been a meeting schedule. Everyone is on-time except for the person who has scheduled the meeting? Or your friends have invited you out for dinner. Only they show up half an hour later with no explanation given.

How does that make you feel?

Tempus fugit

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Frustrated. Upset. Abused. Uncared for.

Emotions like these course through my body when others are late. I’m sure they do for you as well. It’s only natural.

But what if you’re the person who always runs late? Do you know that people view you in a negative light?

They may think:

  • You don’t care about the people you made plans for
  • You’re egotistical
  • You can’t be trusted
  • You are unreliable

Being late lands crushing blows to your reputation. Friends will fade away. Business deals could be lost. Relationships are strained.