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For some, the choice to lead is easy. They’ve felt leading comes naturally and there’s nothing else they could do.

To others, they were thrust into leadership. There was a gap and someone needed to fill it.

And yet others don’t know feel like they could ever lead.

This post is for that last group. The people who are out there thinking leadership isn’t for them.

I’ve got news for you: Leadership may be the thing you need to do today!

If you’re in that boat, here’s 5 reasons you need to be leading…

1. People constantly come to you for advice: When you find yourself constantly being approached by others for advice and guidance, this is a good sign you’re being viewed as a leader.

There are people who are looking up to you. There are people who value your opinion. There are people who know you have skills.

I’ve missed many opportunities in life because I was afraid to speak up.

An uneasy fear rises up when I feel the desire to offer up an idea or oppose a plan. It’s frustrating.

It’s also been holding me back.

Recently, I had the idea to create a video library showcasing what our MRP software could do.

The videos would include demos of placing an order, creating a job, and shipping a product, among other things. I thought it was brilliant.

But not enough to speak up. That was a mistake.

A few months after having the idea to create demonstration videos, another person in our company spoke up. He recommended we create videos detailing our workflow process.

This was right in line with my idea.

Only I never presented it.


I felt my idea didn’t hold merit

Is Fear Holding You Back?

January 28, 2015 — 7 Comments

The last couple of years I’ve had a fascination with most things aviation. From planes (I jumped out of a plane and would still like to learn how to pilot a plane) to helicopters (RC helicopters and quadcopters), I’m drawn to things that fly.

These inventions that can defy gravity. They can move about in the sky unhindered. It’s absolutely fascinating.

This quadcopter made me fearful

That’s why I purchased a quadcopter I could fly outside. I wanted to take something airborne and fly.

After much research, I chose the DJI Phantom Vision 2 quadcopter. It’s a beauty.

When you fire her up, the sounds of her blades become intimidating. You can literally feel the power you have in your hands.

And yet I’m scared to fly the quadcopter.

The investment was hefty. The controls are easy but you can easily get confused. And when you crash it you feel like you’re toasting tons of cash.

How To Conquer A Fear

December 26, 2014 — 11 Comments

Fear is a killer of dreams. We will see something that scares us and we’ll turn tail and run or fight.

Psychologists call this the fight or flight mentality. We have an innate desire to get away from scary things.

Fear confines you, conquer your fear

Image by Laura Lewis

And yet we all want to get over our fears. We want to know that we’re not ruled by the things that scare us.

But it’s so hard to conquer our fears. Fear tells us we’re not going to make it. Fear tells us we’re going to fail. Fear tells us we’re not good enough.

I’m hear to tell you that fear is a liar. Fear can, and must, be conquered.

My Fear

Let me be transparent for a moment. I have fear. Many fears in fact.

One of my biggest fears has been public speaking and creating videos to help others.

How To Overcome Your Doubts

December 19, 2014 — 9 Comments

I want to be honest with you. I’ve written frequently on fitness and how leaders should be focused on being fit.

This is something I’ve been utterly horrible at the past year. My running has been infrequent at best. My bathroom exercises pretty much stopped. My motivation was gone.

We doubt our strength when we should embrace it

Image by BK

The more I thought about my failure to run and exercise, the more down on myself I felt. Then, when I’d get back in the game and actually run, I’d begin to feel doubt creep in.

My mind would tell me things like:

You’ll never run as fast as you used to run.

You’ve taken too much time off. It’s better to give up now.

No one cares if you’re out of shape. By the way, isn’t round a shape?