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While leadership has it’s upsides, there’s also the dark side of leadership. Rarely talked about in public, the frustrating reality of being a leader is often hid. But this needs to change.

We need to publicly acknowledge leadership may not be for everyone. Leadership may hurt more than you thought. Leadership may not even be fun! There are frustrating realities to leadership. Let’s discuss them today.

 

If you’ve been in leadership for any period of time, you know that leadership can be a burden rather than a joy. You may dread going into the office. You may dread going to the church service you lead. Or you might dread waking up and leading your family. You will find yourself frustrated as you lead. There’s no doubt in my mind. Something will happen and frustrations will rise. Frustrating realities of leadership are:

They say the biggest fear most people have is the fear of public speaking. I can relate to that fear but I’m not sure public speaking is the biggest fear people really have.

The real fear is not hitting the goals they set.

hitting the goal isn't the point

Image via Joe Jukes

Public speaking is an easy fear to gravitate to. It’s an obvious fear. I mean, who isn’t scared of getting up in front of a crowd of people and sharing their message? I know I’m scared to death to do it.

But it’s not the greatest fear I have. Like many others, I fear failing to meet the goals I set.

The Purpose Of Goal Setting

With the fear of failing to meet goals, many people won’t even set goals. They figure “Why set a goal if I won’t accomplish it?” In theory, this line of thinking seems to make sense.

Hindsight is 20/20. When we look back on the past, we’re able to see with a clarity we don’t have going into the future.

While I don’t have the ability to go back into my past and prevent myself from repeating the same mistakes, I can share what I wish I would have known growing up.

My hope is you can learn from my mistakes. You can storm the future with confidence. You can grow much quicker than I did.

Little me!There’s things I wish I knew growing up. Things I wish I didn’t have to go through. But, other than one thing, I’m not sure there’s much I would change.

Everything has happened for a reason. I’ve grown, I’ve stretched, I’ve become a better person and leader from these trials.

Try Something Old Again

September 19, 2014 — 13 Comments

Growing up, life was pretty good. I had loving parents. I had good friends. I had everything a kid could hope for.

Except one thing.

The one thing I was missing was a positive sports experience.

A memory that looms large in my mind is of being benched during my first, and only, season of little league baseball. Sitting on the bench while all of the other kids played baseball seemed like the worst thing that could happen to me.

I was wrong and there were other things that have taken the place of being benched. Yet this memory looms large. It held me back for many years.

And then last year I was invited to join my work’s recreation softball team. This was a blast. I discovered I wasn’t so bad at softball/baseball. I could add value to the team.

As great as leadership can be, there are frustrating struggles every leader will face. We’ll be hard-pressed to enjoy every minute of leadership.

There’s plenty of times I think of the things I hate about leadership. And then the list begins to take shape…

Sometimes I hate leadership so much I could scream!

Image by Kenny Louie

Leadership comes with it’s own pitfalls. The trappings we all hate. The frustrations of making a tough choice. The terror of stepping forward.

Yet we lead, even with the long lists of things we hate.

1. The added responsibility of leadership: Yup, we all step into leadership and know there’s going to be added responsibility. Sometimes the added responsibility that comes with leadership can be overwhelming.

2. The responsibility to make the hard decisions: Leaders are there for a reason. We’re there to set a course, to plot the way, to make decisions. Not every decision we face will be easy. We’ll have to make some really difficult choices.