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Words freely flow from our mouths. We say things we think matter and, more often than not, we say words that don’t matter.

It’s messed up I tell you! Why are we saying things that don’t matter instead of things that truly matter?

Let’s get into the habit of saying these 20 things leaders should say more often.

1. You’ve done a fantastic job.

2. Thank you for your hard work.

3. I appreciate what you’ve done for me.

4. Here’s 2 tickets to the Detroit Tigers game. (Not only will this make someone’s day, it’ll get two more Tigers fans to the stadium)

5. What can I do to make your job better?

6. I’ve messed up.

7. I don’t know. Let’s find out together.

8. How can we help each other?

Influence is at the heart of leadership. Our actions should inspire and influence our tribe to become better. To do more. To be more.

However, we sometimes do things that make us lose our influence as leaders.

Beached sailboats

Image by Damian Gadal

Be on guard for the actions that will make your leadership less effective and for you to lose your influence over your tribe. Your influence is valuable and it’s key to being a leader.

As you’re leading, take care to not lose your influence.

Have a Do as I say, not as I do attitude: Our actions speak louder than words. When we expect others to do as we say but not as we do, our tribe begins to notice.

Those once great followers will soon turn away. They’ll realize you’re all talk, no action. Don’t let your actions tell your tribe you’re not a leader.

Trust is essential for any leader. Without trust, you can’t lead anyone willingly.

I started my new job July 29th, 2013. I was nervous, excited, fearful, but most of all, ready for the challenge. I was scared because it’s something new. Anxiety and worries follow fear with any new endeavor. The combination of fear, anxiety, worries is a great recipe for mistakes and missed opportunities at a new job.

Trust standing at the edge

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What kills my fears, worries, and anxiety about a new job is my solid plan. I have a “money-back guarantee” strategy that will not fail. This strategy is based on the wisdom I’ve gathered in my career, excellent books like 7 Habits of Highly Effective People and How to Win Friends and Influence People.

Congratulations!

October 11, 2013 — 15 Comments

Really, it’s amazing what the word Congratulations can do to a person. It can make them feel like they’re on cloud 9 and the world is their oyster.

Whenever we hear Congratulations, we feel like we’ve done something worthy of praise. That’s awesome!

Sadly, we may not hear the word Congratulations all that often. Our spouse (I know I’m guilty of not saying it to my wife enough), our boss, our employees, and even our friends may not say it or communicate it to us. That’s a bummer.

When we don’t hear that great word there’s often a feeling of shame or guilt we haven’t lived up to expectations or done something great. Don’t believe the lie.

We were made to be amazing. We were made to WOW the world. We were made to excel.

The world tends to praise the extrovert. The outgoing. The person stealing the show.

And the introvert gets relegated to second fiddle. And forgotten about.

It’s time we change our perception of the introvert.

Sure, they’re quiet and don’t do well in crowds. That doesn’t mean introverts don’t rock at leadership.

If you don’t know, introverts are typically more concerned with matters of the mind. They may avoid social situations and being around people can drain their energy. Often, they’ll come across as being self-centered or uncaring.

Hearing this, you may think introverts wouldn’t make a great leader. I think you’re wrong.

The traits of an introvert can serve a leader well.

Introverts are deep thinkers: Introverts tend to revert back into their mind to process all of the information they’ve consumed. They take the time to go over EVERYTHING.