Sometimes The Grass Really Is Greener On The Other Side Of The Fence

We often hear people saying that the grass just looks greener on the other side of the fence. That our grass is just as green or greener.

But that’s not always true. Sometimes the grass really is greener on the other side of the fence.

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You may be shocked that I said that.

Think about it for a minute. Let the saying really settle into your mind.

When we really think about it, I know it’s true. And I think you do too.



You’re probably asking Why? right about now.

There’s a simple reason why the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.

You’re neglecting the grass on your side of the fence. It’s not being watered. It’s not being fertilized. It’s not being cared for.

While the people on the other side of the fence are watering their grass. They’re fertilizing it. They’re caring for their grass.

This, in turn, makes the grass on the other side of the fence greener.



How can you have green grass like the grass on the other side of the fence? It’s by taking the same steps as the land owner who has the green grass.

Tend to your grass. Water it. Fertilize it. Care for it.

Soon your grass will be just as green as the greener grass on the other side of the fence.



We can easily get discouraged in our lives when we see our friends and neighbors with the things that we want.

Just like with the greener grass, the great marriage, healthy body, and well behaved children take work. You have to put in the time, the energy, and the effort to see the results.

If you want a great marriage, you may have to:

  • Have a weekly date night.
  • Do something with your spouse that you don’t like. For men, it may be seeing a chick flick. For women, it may be going to the newest action movie.
  • Compliment each other.
  • Do small acts of kindness.

If you want great children, you will have to:

  • Attend their school activities. Go to their play, baseball game, or band concert.
  • Have a date night. Your children are longing for time with their mommy or daddy. Pick a night and take out just one child at a time. Focus on them and give them your undivided attention.
  • Learn about their interests. When they know you care about what they care about, it means the world to them.
  • Get to know their friends.

If you want a healthy body, you will have to:

  • Learn to control your eating.
  • Exercise regularly.
  • Adjust your sleep schedule.

When you start applying these and other action steps into your life, the grass on your side of the fence will start to change. You’ll see weeds start to whither and die. New, beautiful flowers sprouting, and the grass becoming greener.

Yes, it does take time and energy. But it’s time and energy that is well worth it.

Your grass (life) will become much more appealing. Your neighbor’s grass will no longer be as alluring.

Take the steps today to water, fertilize, and care for your grass. The dividends you’ll reap will be more than worth it.

Question: How are you keeping your grass green? Please share your thoughts in the comment section below.

Please note: I reserve the right to delete comments that are offensive or off-topic.

  • You nailed it–it’s so easy to ignore what’s important to us (even if it’s not because you’re staring over the fence). I’m probably guilty of this far more than I’d like to know.

    • I’m sure we’re all guilty of that action than we think we are. It’s easy to get distracted with the “Oh Shiny!” disease.

  • Wow, so awesome that you posted on this. Just yesterday I was talking with a friend about people who’s lives seem “perfect” from the outside, but what others don’t realize is the work that entails.
    sometimes it is a facade, but other times people really are reaping the rewards of working hard. The thing is, we just don’t know. Green grass really can be a tricky thing to figure out.
    Best just to focus on fertilizing your own grass and leave the neighbors grass alone (wink)

    • Thanks for sharing your story from yesterday TC. It’s amazing how things line up and come out at the correct time, huh?

      • Yep, it truly is GOD!

  • Great post, I mean really great post Joe! This is the third awesome post I’ve read today. I think a lot of the negative things we think about our grass are in our head. I was convinced I hated my day job with a passion, and now I see that’s it not my future but I don’t hate it. I really love the people on the route.

    I have found my dream and I’m working on it and praying it through to make sure it’s a smooth transition.

    • I know you’re working towards your dream Kimanzi! And you’re hitting a great stride getting there. You’ve watered, you’ve fertilized, you’ve tended to your grass and it’s becoming GREEN!

      What other blog posts did you read today that were awesome? I’d love to check them out.

  • I like the way you reversed the saying! To answer you question, I was totally frustrated comparing my life with others…ie. cars, house, life in general. I finally came to peace with myself when Jesus gave me another chance from falling away from Him. It was then I knew my life would be used as an example for others. Not to chase someone life that I don’t have control. That’s just the way I see it….but I know what your bring out. Great post

    • That’s great that you came around and realized it’s not about chasing after what others are doing but to do what God has called you to do. Would you mind sharing how God is using your life as an example?

  • This really hits home. It’s easy to look at someone’s finish line and think it is their beginning. It’s all about perspective, and often our perspective is WRONG isn’t it!

    • Right Jim! It’s easy to get caught up in where others are at this moment in time and not where they were 6 months, 1 year, or more ago. We’re seeing the fruits of their watering. Now we need to focus on watering our grass!

  • Good stuff, Joe. I like keeping the grass green better than sharpening my saw.

  • Great post Joe.

    I am working to stay healthy and have a thriving marriage amongst other things. It’s all work. But very worthwhile work 🙂

    I find that comparing my life to anothers can be crippling.

    So I like how you’ve put it – focusing on your own life is what makes the grass green, not focussing and fussing about the neighbors.

    Great thoughts today.

    • You got the point Ngina! Keep watering that marriage and health of yours and you’ll see the results of your labor.

  • All valid points Joe, and I am keeping my lawn green by investing the time, and making the commitment to truly listen and sow into others , my marriage, family, friends and Business partners. Enjoyed the post.

    • All great things you’re doing Lincoln! Bet the lawn is looking pretty good.

  • Oh, I can relate to the longing for something more and later, realizing I have it but it’s just been neglected.

    What a great perspective and I appreciate bumping over here this morning.

    • Glad you were able to stop by Duane. How did you realize that you already had what you were longing for but neglecting it?

      • Say with writing for instance.

        I can write wonderfully if I just take my eyes off of everyone else and their book deals etc…
        It just hasn’t been “my time” yet. 🙂

        • Same here Duane. I get distracted by the ones who are knocking it out of the park NOW. Forgetting what they went through.

          But as long as you’re plugging away and doing your best work, you’ll see the results come.

  • The most important person a someone can lead is themselves. If we can lead and focus on self then we will better influence others.

    I personally am trying to maintain a balanced life. I have intense focus on the areas that I need grow and maintain. Like my family, work, church, and my writing. Just tonight my in-laws watched our son while my wife and I went out to dinner and did some shopping. This was a much needed date night. It allowed us to connect and keep the fire going.

    Great post bro.

    • You’ve got your priorities right Dan. Family, church, writing. All important facets in the life you’re trying to build.

  • “Tend to your grass. Water it. Fertilize it. Care for it.”

    What great, straightforward advice. Thanks, Joe!

    • You’re welcome Chris. It’s something that I’ve tried to focus on in my life and wanted to share with others.

  • Agreed, Joe. “The grass is greenest where you water it.” Not sure who originally said that; I know I’ve heard it from Dan Miller.

    Good reminder!

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  • Enjoyed this! The “grass is greener” expression is meant to make you appreciate where you’re at, but sometimes that can make light of real changes that need to be made, and thus keep you in a place where you don’t want to be.

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  • Anna

    It is refreshing to hear in your face accurate truth. I do envy others who put in more time and effort to have the greener yard. I need to do the steps you mentioned in all areas of my life. Thanks.

    • Then get to it Anna! What’s the first step you NEED to take?