Your View Of Friendship Is Skewed

One thousand, eight hundred and thirty-seven. That’s the number of “friends” Facebook tells me that I have.

On one hand, it brings joy to my heart. There are 1,837 people that are connected to me on Facebook.

The other hand feels sadness. A longing for intimate relationships that I don’t get from Facebook.

Friendships aren't what you think

Do you have these conflicting thoughts too? One of glee and happiness. One that makes you feel so joyous because you’re connected to SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO many people.

And then reality smacks you upside your head and tells you that you really don’t have as many friends as Facebook tells you you do?

Facebook Has Messed Up The Truth Of Friendship

Something odd has happened over the last 12 years since Facebook was created. Our view of friendship has gone from those we’re close to and morphed into a catch-all term for everyone and anyone we’re acquaintances we’re with.

The Reason I Slacked Off Tonight

I’m writing this post later than I normally would. It’s almost 11PM where I live.

And here I am writing up a new blog post.

Know the right times to slack

Why? Because I slacked.

Here’s the reason:

slacking with my Vizsla pup

Our new Vizsla puppy wanted to chill with me tonight. He didn’t want to get off the couch. Truthfully, I didn’t want him to either.

So, we laid there while watching Fear The Walking Dead. Or, as a lot of my friends would say, we were slacking.

But you know what? I’m okay with slacking. Especially when I slack for the right reasons.

When You Should Slack Off

We’re pushed to the extreme. Marketers, leaders, business people are always telling us that we need to be doing the hard work.

Baloney!

There’s times we need to have some down time. We have to break away from the routines and spend time with those that are important.

Get To Doing

So many people talk. And talk. And talk…

We talk so much we forget there’s action to take.

Why We Talk

We talk because talking feels good. We get to express our desires and what we PLAN to do.

Just the action of speaking out our intentions gives us a sense of premature completion. Talking about what we’re going to do actually gives us the feeling we’ve done it!

Isn’t that crazy?

With that, you can see why we continue to talk about how we’re going to change the world. Or how we’re going to search for a new job. Or lead the organization in a new direction.

Get To Doing

While we should be talking about our goals, we can’t let our action stop at the talking. We’ve got to get to doing.

What We Can Learn From The Hard Times

Everyone will experience hard times in their lives.

These are the times when it seems like you can’t get ahead. Maybe your bills are piling up. Or it could be the initiatives you’ve launched have failed.

Hard times try us.

The hard times can be your friend

You Will Have Hard Times In Your Life

The last couple of years have felt like a mighty battle has been waged in my life.

We had to put down one dog. We’re concerned about the health of our other dog. We left a leadership position at a church (and the church itself). We had to buy 2 vehicles in one year. We had our basement flood and we had struggles with our city’s insurance company.

These hard times have weighed heavy on our hearts and minds. They’re troubling yet reassuring all at the same time.

Go Waste Your Day

Our time is valuable. We all get that.

We also know we have a limited amount of time every day. We all get 24 hours or 1,440 minutes or 86,600 seconds.

Once those are gone, the day is done, never to be repeated again.

It's okay to waste your day

Image by JD Hancock

Because of this, we’re often told we need to make the most of each day. We’ve got to pack it with as much activity as we can muster.

It’s the way of productivity. It’s the way of the successful. It’s the way of the wise.

Waste The Day

It’s also the way of the dull. The boring. The stickler.

No one actually counts each second of their day. Few account for every minute they have.

Regardless of what people share online, we need to spend time wasting our days away once in awhile.