The Funny Thing About Confidence

I recently had a conversation with a coworker about confidence. We came to an ironic conclusion.

Everyone is portraying themselves as confident. They have what it takes to get the job done. They are the ones you need to call if you need something done.

Confidence is a funny thing

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But is this really the case? Are people really confident?

I don’t believe they are. I know I’m not. Yet I can come across as confident.

There’s this facade we all put up to protect ourselves from the outward gazes of those looking at us. The facade is hurting us.

I’m Not Confident, No Really… I’m Not

When I look at the daily changes I have to face in my career, in my home, with my friends, I begin to quake. I don’t know if I have what it takes to take care of my job, my home, my family, and my friends. But I put up a front.

Are You Carrying Around Digital Baggage?

Social Media May Be Weighing You Down

As I was sitting with a good friend of mine, Jeff of The Lounging Space, discussing life, love, and faith, we began to talk about baggage. Not the typical baggage you may think of.

We didn’t talk of lost loves. Or the pain of regret. No… We discussed digital baggage.

In today’s world, we’re carrying around Digital Baggage. More than we would like to admit.

What Is Digital Baggage?

Jeff and I came to the conclusion Digital Baggage consists of all of our social media channels. Facebook. YouTube. Twitter. Instagram. Google+, LinkedIn.

Each of these social media channels offers us something great. The opportunity to connect with long lost friends. The chance to stay in touch with new friends. And the ability to sell our wares to our connections.

But these social media channels also offers us something else. Digital Baggage.

Stop Living In Fear

When fear rules your life

The last couple of years of my life has been filled with fear. It all started with our dog Zane.

He was a great boy but he had a mean streak to him. One that led to a lot of fear in our lives.

Fear will control you

Over the course of his short life, Zane would snap. By snapping, I mean he would turn on us and bite us. There were multiple times this happened over the years we owned him.

While we loved him, we also feared he would become violent. One day he did and that was the day we made the decision we would have to put him down.

Then, for the next 3 years, we lived with the fear we would lose our other dog Leviticus to old age. We lost Leviticus almost a year ago.

Be Brave

One leadership trait you must have as a leader is bravery. Leaders are brave people.

Leadership isn’t an easy road to tow. You have to make tough choices and go into the unknown.

To be a leader, you must be brave.

Bravery is the key

What Does Being Brave Look Like?

Being brave is easy, yet hard at the same time. You have to push past your insecurities and do what needs to be done.

To be brave, you have to take action. Be brave by:

Standing up for what is right

Giving others credit

Doing what is right

Showing up

Taking risks

Speaking up

Following through

Giving up your perks

Looking fear in the face

Moving forward when you don’t see how

Being kind

Showing vulnerability

Having strength

Sharing your thoughts

How To Assemble A Support System

Even leaders need help

One of the hardest things for a leader to do is to ask for help. Too many new leaders see this asking for help as a sign of weakness.

Break that thought pattern. Being willing to seek out the advice and support of others isn’t weakness. No, doing so is  a strength.

As you step into the role of a leader, you have to know how to assemble a support system.

great leaders require a support system

What A Healthy Support System Looks Like

We’ve been lied to. We’ve been fed the lie leadership is a lonely battle.

Well, that’s true but only if we let leadership be lonely.

You have a choice. You can cultivate a healthy support system and be an effective leader. To do so, you have to surround yourself with people who will hold you up when you are weak.