Stop Living In Fear

When fear rules your life

The last couple of years of my life has been filled with fear. It all started with our dog Zane.

He was a great boy but he had a mean streak to him. One that led to a lot of fear in our lives.

Fear will control you

Over the course of his short life, Zane would snap. By snapping, I mean he would turn on us and bite us. There were multiple times this happened over the years we owned him.

While we loved him, we also feared he would become violent. One day he did and that was the day we made the decision we would have to put him down.

Then, for the next 3 years, we lived with the fear we would lose our other dog Leviticus to old age. We lost Leviticus almost a year ago.

Be Brave

One leadership trait you must have as a leader is bravery. Leaders are brave people.

Leadership isn’t an easy road to tow. You have to make tough choices and go into the unknown.

To be a leader, you must be brave.

Bravery is the key

What Does Being Brave Look Like?

Being brave is easy, yet hard at the same time. You have to push past your insecurities and do what needs to be done.

To be brave, you have to take action. Be brave by:

Standing up for what is right

Giving others credit

Doing what is right

Showing up

Taking risks

Speaking up

Following through

Giving up your perks

Looking fear in the face

Moving forward when you don’t see how

Being kind

Showing vulnerability

Having strength

How To Assemble A Support System

Even leaders need help

One of the hardest things for a leader to do is to ask for help. Too many new leaders see this asking for help as a sign of weakness.

Break that thought pattern. Being willing to seek out the advice and support of others isn’t weakness. No, doing so is  a strength.

As you step into the role of a leader, you have to know how to assemble a support system.

great leaders require a support system

What A Healthy Support System Looks Like

We’ve been lied to. We’ve been fed the lie leadership is a lonely battle.

Well, that’s true but only if we let leadership be lonely.

You have a choice. You can cultivate a healthy support system and be an effective leader. To do so, you have to surround yourself with people who will hold you up when you are weak.

You Must Be Yourself

Every leader has a big temptation in front of them. The temptation is whether to be true to who they are or to be who they think others want them to be.

The shocking truth is that the people you lead want you to be yourself, not some fake.

Get rid of self doubt and shame

Why We Struggled Being Our True Selves

Let’s be honest here, being yourself is scary. I remember elementary school.

Kids would pick on me relentlessly. Whether it was the fact that I wore Hush Puppies or that I was a giant among my peers. The kids in my school picked on and bullied me.

The sad thing about the constant taunting was that I was being picked on for things that I couldn’t change.

Harnessing The Power Of Expectations

Think back to Christmas day and the expectations you had. Presents wrapped underneath the Christmas tree. Snow on the ground. The days off of school.

Expectations were built. Expectations were had. Sometimes they were met, other times we were left empty.

However, there was a power behind our expectations.

The power of our expectations was able to get us out of bed early. Excited and ready to rip into presents.

Now, expectations normally let us down.

We have the expectation of the daily grind. The expectation of doing our daily workout. Or maybe it’s the expectation of returning to work on Monday.

Somehow we’ve let expectations turn into a negative, rather than a positive, empowering force.

How can you harness the power of expectation today? Here’s a few tips to do so.