How To Assemble A Support System

Even leaders need help

One of the hardest things for a leader to do is to ask for help. Too many new leaders see this asking for help as a sign of weakness.

Break that thought pattern. Being willing to seek out the advice and support of others isn’t weakness. No, doing so is  a strength.

As you step into the role of a leader, you have to know how to assemble a support system.

great leaders require a support system

What A Healthy Support System Looks Like

We’ve been lied to. We’ve been fed the lie leadership is a lonely battle.

Well, that’s true but only if we let leadership be lonely.

You have a choice. You can cultivate a healthy support system and be an effective leader. To do so, you have to surround yourself with people who will hold you up when you are weak.

You Must Be Yourself

Every leader has a big temptation in front of them. The temptation is whether to be true to who they are or to be who they think others want them to be.

The shocking truth is that the people you lead want you to be yourself, not some fake.

Get rid of self doubt and shame

Why We Struggled Being Our True Selves

Let’s be honest here, being yourself is scary. I remember elementary school.

Kids would pick on me relentlessly. Whether it was the fact that I wore Hush Puppies or that I was a giant among my peers. The kids in my school picked on and bullied me.

The sad thing about the constant taunting was that I was being picked on for things that I couldn’t change.

Harnessing The Power Of Expectations

Think back to Christmas day and the expectations you had. Presents wrapped underneath the Christmas tree. Snow on the ground. The days off of school.

Expectations were built. Expectations were had. Sometimes they were met, other times we were left empty.

However, there was a power behind our expectations.

The power of our expectations was able to get us out of bed early. Excited and ready to rip into presents.

Now, expectations normally let us down.

We have the expectation of the daily grind. The expectation of doing our daily workout. Or maybe it’s the expectation of returning to work on Monday.

Somehow we’ve let expectations turn into a negative, rather than a positive, empowering force.

How can you harness the power of expectation today? Here’s a few tips to do so.

Why I Stopped Waiting For Inspiration To Strike

There’s something romantic about being a creative. Whether it’s an artist, a musician, or a writer. Everything about the creative process, to those on the outside, seems amazing.

You get to create a masterpiece others can enjoy. You’re sharing a talent you have with the world. You’re able to express yourself. Oh, and you’re always inspired!

Oh, what a crock! I’ve got to tell you that rarely does an inspiring moment hit right when I desire it to.

Knowing this, I had to stop waiting for inspiration to strike.

There’s been stories written about inspiration and how inspiration strikes at just the right moment. I’m not sure I’ve found that to be the case.

Inspiration rarely strikes me when I want it to. I can’t call upon inspiration to bless me with the insights I want to have.

Inch By Inch We Grow

There’s something frustrating about growing. That frustrating thing?

Growth isn’t instantly noticeable.

There’s truth behind that statement. You know it. You feel it. And, if you’re like me, you resent the fact growth takes time.

You will grow inch by inch

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Yet it’s a fact of life. Rarely will anything of worth happen instantly. Rather, growth takes time.

Give Growth Time

The world is increasingly becoming an impatient place to be.

We get angry when things take longer than we think they should. The quick meal at Burger King is ruined because it took 5 minutes to get your order rather than 2 minutes. The horns start blaring as the car at the stoplight doesn’t proceed the moment the light turned green. The anger starts rising when your new pet doesn’t catch onto the household rules.

All because we’re impatient. We’re expecting something at the drop of a dime.