You have powers you never dreamed of. You can do things you never thought you could do. There are no limitations in what you can do except the limitations of your own mind.
Correcting someone is one of the most difficult and uncomfortable actions you can take. There is always anxiety that the person you’re correcting will feel beat up or over react. There is a way to correct someone, see improved behavior, and even win their respect.
There are several reasons why people are uncomfortable with or even avoid correction. The notion of correction being a negative experience probably comes from negative experience as a kid with our parents or maybe a boss at one of our first jobs. Wherever it comes from, you have probably experienced more bad corrections than good ones.
Another reason simply comes from the current culture that does not advocate for confrontation. Instead, you and I are told to “just go with the flow” and let people do what they’re going to do. While you should not be in everyone’s face about every issue you have about their behavior, you should be able to speak into the lives of the people around you — especially if their words or behavior are inappropriate or they’re under-performing.
Throughout our lives, we have multiple identities. We may be fathers, husbands, wives, sisters, brothers, leaders, businessmen, athletes, and the list goes on.
We have title after title. We have position after position. We have responsibility after responsibility.
The crazy thing is, we can get lost and easily forget who we are.
That’s one of the reasons why I loved watched the beginning of CBS’s CSI: Miami. The theme song for the show was The Who’s Who Are You song.
Who Are You is a catchy song that, at the beginning, simply asks Who are you? Who, who, who, who?
The question is pointed and it’s loaded.
Do you know who you are? Do I know who you are? Who are you?
There’s a good reason this resonates with me. It should resonate with you.
Leaders are called to be many things. Leaders need to be brave. Leaders need to be honest. Leaders need to be innovative.
But one thing leaders cannot do is to let fear rule their decisions.
When fearful leaders rule, bad things begin to happen.
I’ve been trying to catch up on the TV series 24 with Keifer Sutherland as Jack Bauer. He’s one bad dude you don’t want to mess with.
In 24, you rarely see him come across as fearful. The further I’ve watched 24 (I’m on season 5 or 6 right now), the more clear it’s become about the role fear should play in leadership.
You’ll see multiple presidents come and go on the show. Currently, there’s President Logan running the nation.
He’s a man who’s ruled by fear. President Logan fears:
Making a bad choice