Nurture Leadership

May 28, 2012 — 38 Comments
Nurture Leadership | Joseph Lalonde

Today, I am writing as a contributor to the Christian Writers Blog Chain. The theme for May is “Nurture.” If you are a Christian author or writer, be sure to check out Christianwriters.com to network with others.

You’re an excellent leader. You’re rocking it out.

Your team is awesome. They’re willing to follow you anywhere.

You’ve got it made.

Leaders, just like plants, need nurturing

Image By David Masters

You know what you’ve got to do to create great leadership.

It requires influence, persistence, a following.

And don’t forget it requires nurturing. Yup, that’s right, nurturing.

You need to practice Nurture Leadership.

Eventually you can get into the nuts and bolts of reality: nurturing, caring, and getting along.
– Jody Watley

Dictionary.com defines nurturing, as a verb, in three ways. Each definition plays into your role as a leader.

  1. To feed and protect:
    As your team is growing, you will have to feed them and protect them.
     
    Seek out the best reading materials that you can. Give it to them. Walk through the material with them.

    Give them your guidance and advice. Feed them with your knowledge.

    Watch over them as they’re growing. They’ll make mistakes. Let them but be willing to step in and protect them from a deadly mistake.

  2. To support and encourage:
    You’re the head of the team. They look up to you.
     
    Be ready and willing to offer support and encouraging words.

    When a team member does a great job, heap on the praise. Let them know that they did a fantastic job and that it is appreciated.

    If a team member falls, be there to lift him up and encourage him. Let him know there will be days where you’re in the dumps. But you don’t have to stay there.

  3. To bring up; train; educate:
    This is similar to the first definition.
     
    Your team needs training and education. Be willing to provide it to them.

    Whether it is through your teaching, attending conferences, or good, quality books. Be willing to take part in their education.

    Remember, they’ll be the ones to take over when you’re done. You want to leave a great legacy.

As you progress as a leader, remember these three parts of nurture leadership.

Get your hands dirty and bring up the team below you. Let them know that you’re for them. That you’re willing to feed and protect, support and encourage, and train and educate.

When you’re willing to bring these qualities into your leadership, your team will be able to flourish. They’ll feel equipped and ready. They’ll be educated. They’ll know that they’re appreciated.

You’ll grow a team that is trained and equipped to handle the tough stuff.

Start today by applying at least one of these traits to your leadership.

Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible – the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family.
– Virginia Satir

Question: How can being more nurturing affect your leadership? Please share your thoughts in the comment section below.


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  • http://www.lincolnparks.com Lincoln Parks

    Nurturing is in other words what Jim Rohn calls it protecting your team from the weeds. The weeds will grow and try to choke out the plants, but its your duty to protect them. The more your protect/Nurture the better your team will become. Its the backbone of Leadership.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Jim Rohn was a smart man. That’s a great analogy Lincoln.

      Have you ever had trouble distinguishing the “weeds” from the team members that needed just a bit more attention?

      • http://www.lincolnparks.com Lincoln Parks

        Really most are from the outside Joe. Most of the team members that needed some attention we were able to identify problem areas and address those concerns. Luckily for me our team is really open with communication and areas in which we all struggle.

    • http://www.brandongilliland.com/ Brandon Gilliland

      I like the analogy you mentioned!

  • http://talesofwork.com/ kimanzi constable

    Great post Joe and I wish the people at the company that I’ve told you about could read it.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Thanks Kimanzi. Too bad it couldn’t be anonymously sent.

  • http://danblackonleadership.com/ Dan Black

    Great practical ways to become more of a nurturing leader. I believe it’s so important for leaders to be training and mentoring their people. I have found if a leader does this they in turn will see increased production and better results from their people.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      That’s one of the biggest components of leadership that has been missing. Leaders are so busy it can be easy to neglect the training up and mentoring of those under them.

      What suggestions do you have for a leader that struggles in this area?

      • http://danblackonleadership.com/ Dan Black

        Joe,

        I think it’s important for leaders to be growth driven. The people who are always growing and learning can better teach what they are learning to others. When a leader is full then it’s easier to pour into others. So to always be growing and learning then sharing it to their followers.

  • http://www.liveitforward.com/ Kent Julian

    All 3 things on your list are “serving” characteristics. Nurturing and serving…pretty synonymous.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      You pulled out the main message Kent. Great leadership is all about serving others. Anything else you would add to the list?

      • http://www.liveitforward.com/ Kent Julian

        True nurturing leads to multiplication. To me, that’s the end result of nurture leaderships…the multiplication of leaders.

    • http://www.brandongilliland.com/ Brandon Gilliland

      Definitely!

  • Steph B

    Having recently taken a leadership position in my church, something which I am entirely uncomfortable doing, I find your post quite helpful as I train myself to ‘serve’ as a leader. Thank you so much. A very good word at a needed time!

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Steph, congrats on the new leadership position. It can be scary! Yet you have to look at the positives. You’re now able to influence others in a more effective way. Be out to serve those you are leading and you’ll do terrific!

  • http://chrisvonada.info/ chris vonada

    I can do this by striving to always be a servant. It’s not all about me…

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Awesome Chris!

  • Terrie Thorpe

    Great prospective on leadership. I really liked your summary “As you progress as a leader, remember these three parts of nurture leadership.

    Get your hands dirty and bring up the team below you. Let them know that you’re for them. That you’re willing to feed and protect, support and encourage, and train and educate.

    When you’re willing to bring these qualities into your leadership, your team will be able to flourish. They’ll feel equipped and ready. They’ll be educated. They’ll know that they’re appreciated.” spot on! Peace and Blessings

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Thanks for the kind words Terrie. How have you seen that played out in your life?

  • Carol Peterson

    I enjoy reading about leadership here, Joe. Great definitions incorporated into what makes a good leader.

    The hard one for me is letting people make mistakes. It’s painful to watch and painful to make the mistakes. But you’re right that–unless they’re deadly–it’s important to make mistakes that will teach you something.

    Thank you for this.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      You’re right Carol. It’s hard to watch others make mistakes. Especially when we know that they could be prevented. But it’s important because it shows them that you trust them and are willing to accept them back after they make the mistake.

  • http://www.brandongilliland.com/ Brandon Gilliland

    Awesome! I love what you mentioned in this post!

  • http://www.brandongilliland.com/ Brandon Gilliland

    By the way, I haven’t heard of the network you talked about here. I will check it out!

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      It’s a great community and stretches some of my writing, especially when it comes to the blog chain. Hope you enjoy it!

  • Bill Jones

    Thanks Joe – very good points on leadership and how nurturing is a big part of it. There’s a buzzword these days of “individual contributor” but I still think we’re all part of a team somewhere, and all should be involved in nurturing.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      I agree with you Bill. Whether it be at work, our families, or in friendships we’re all part of something somewhere. We need to know that and find out where we belong.

  • http://embracinglife-rose.blogspot.com/ Rose @ Walnut Acre

    Wonderful post! I think nurturing is one of the key elements that is often missed in leadership.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      I’m with you on that. How do you think we could bring nurturing back to leadership?

  • E G Lewis

    Nice post. We sometimes forget how much we owe to the various nurturers in our lives…coaches, scout leaders, teachers, bosses and, yes, spouses. Peace and Blessings

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      So true E.G. How do you remind yourself to keep that in mind?

  • Chris Henderson

    I have some clients who show their appreciation of the service I provide. For the way I feel nurtured by it, I want to do all I can for them.

    On the other hand I have clients who are badgering and belittling whom I want to avoid at all costs and even cringe when I see their emails.

    Nurturing and kind words do go far!

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      How true Chris! That works the same way in retail and service industries as well.

      Reminds me of the saying “You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar definition.”

  • http://collingszone.wordpress.com/ Adam Collings

    Some good points. I recently stepped into a small leadership role through a ministry in my church. I will have to keep these points in mind.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Adam, glad to hear you’ve had the chance to step into a leadership role. You’ll do fantastic.

  • Traci B

    Excellent tips on nurturing leadership, all of which can also apply to nurturing our own God-given gifts. Whether we’re leading others or simply following God’s plan for our lives, we need to apply everything you mentioned.

    The Bible talks about how David encouraged himself in the Lord (I Samuel 30:6). When others won’t provide that encouragement, we have to do it ourselves by focusing on the blessings, gifts and talents God has supplied for each of us and by seeking His guidance.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      Great point about David and having to encourage himself. Sometimes others won’t be around but you’ll always be with you.

  • http://heartgazer.wordpress.com/ SandiGrace

    Good post. Thank you. Sometimes we take on leadership roles in casual settings or relationships when we see others need direction. It may be as simple as providing a positive example, or giving a word of encouragement to someone who seems “lost” or down. To me, the real leaders are not always the ones who noisily stand out with demands or manipulation, but rather are the rare gems who quietly introduce strength, substance, and hope into other’s lives.

    • http://www.jmlalonde.com Joe Lalonde

      So true Saudi. Too often we’ll find people calling themselves leaders who are out for themselves and not for their team. It’s discouraging but there are true leaders who look out for others.