The Funny Thing About Confidence

I recently had a conversation with a coworker about confidence. We came to an ironic conclusion.

Everyone is portraying themselves as confident. They have what it takes to get the job done. They are the ones you need to call if you need something done.

Confidence is a funny thing

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But is this really the case? Are people really confident?

I don’t believe they are. I know I’m not. Yet I can come across as confident.

There’s this facade we all put up to protect ourselves from the outward gazes of those looking at us. The facade is hurting us.

I’m Not Confident, No Really… I’m Not

When I look at the daily changes I have to face in my career, in my home, with my friends, I begin to quake. I don’t know if I have what it takes to take care of my job, my home, my family, and my friends. But I put up a front.

I let people think I have everything all together. I pretend I know what I’m doing and where I’m going.

The truth is I’m scared. I’m worried I don’t have what it takes.

Yet I’m able to get things done. Even though I’m scared and lack the confidence I feel I need, I know I can move forward.

You’re Probably Not As Confident As You Think Either

Are you like me? Do you fear you don’t have what it takes to be successful?

You’re in good company if you aren’t super confident. In fact, I’d say you’re in the majority of people in the world.

So many people lack confidence. They aren’t sure if today will be the day they break or if they will be able to make it another day.

That’s okay. You’re human. You’re not meant to have it all together.

What To Do With Your Lack Of Confidence

If you lack confidence, I want to reaffirm you today. You’re okay. You’re going to be okay.

You don’t have to walk in complete confidence of yourself. What you need to do is walk in the confidence you’re going to get through this.

You’re going to make the sale. You’re going to get the girl. Or you’re going to have a great family.

Know where you’re going. Know why you’re going there. And know you can get there even if you don’t fully believe in yourself.

It sounds crazy but it works.

Question: Do you find yourself lacking confidence? What do you do in those moments? Let us know in the comment section below.

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  • Confidence is a funny thing. For instance I am confident that I will make mistakes.
    I am equally confident that I will recover from them, at least in some capacity.
    I am confident that I will never lead a team of workers to achieve great things.
    I am confident that I will achieve something but that depends on where I place my confidence and how well I lead myself.
    Confidence is necessary to move forward or move at all. I think confidence is a game changer. Confidence is the the hinge on the swinging door. It’s placement and its stability to the frame is a pretty important factor in determining behavior. I’m confident of that … as well as that I took this conversation in a totally different direction.

  • Loralin Welch

    Bass and Bass (2008) indicate in their text that effective leaders are self-aware. They are able to accurately rate themselves and perform accordingly. The fact that one is aware of their lack of confidence in certain areas but also possess the ability to overcome that is indicative of a strong leader.