Dealing With Disputes Biblically With Josh Andrews – Answers From Leadership Episode 11

Today’s podcast guest is Josh Andrews. Josh is a business lawyer who helps small business owners and entrepreneurs develop a clear legal plan to protect their business as it grows. He podcasts, blogs, and spends his time giving entrepreneurs a clear path to legal protection.

With that, I’m excited to share with you Josh’s insights into handling disputes biblically as a leader. This episode is good. Real good.

How to handle disputes Biblically
 

Show Notes:

What else do you want us to know about you?

He’s a child of God. A husband. A father of 4. He’s spent the last 12 years learning how to become a leader in his field as a lawyer and at home.

He’s a lawyer but not the blood-sucking kind. He knew the choice of a lawyer wasn’t going to allow him to be the kind of leader at home that he wanted to be.

He set out to create a law practice that would allow him to put his family first.

What leadership difficulties have you encountered as you’ve led at home and in business?

One big struggle has been being the young guy. The young guy who’s leading and out ahead of others.

Because of this, seeking guidance and wisdom has been a challenge. It’s been hard to find peers in the same area of life.

What have you learned from this difficulty?

You have to rise up and not let your situation dictate your life. You have a choice.

You can take the difficult circumstance where you feel overwhelmed and get to a new place. Those circumstances are learning opportunities.

Why do you think we face disputes?

Dispute is a part of human nature. Dispute is basically conflict.

The reason for dispute comes back to the fall. It’s part of our sin nature.

The question then isn’t how do we avoid conflict, it is how do we as leaders work to make those conflicts into opportunities to teach those we lead, or more importantly, to share the Gospel with those who have never heard it before.

How can we Biblically handle disputes?

This can be tough. Why? Because we’re still sinners. We may have even caused the conflict.

We need to step back and realize that it is our business to be ambassadors of Christ. Whether it’s at our work, church, or family life.

Have you had any push-back because of your Biblical beliefs?

Not often. There have been questions about his choices or counsel.

For the most part, though, the Biblical ideas play very well with negotiation tactics.

Why is it important for leaders to have counsel?

The book of Proverbs is full of instances that tell us that the wise seek counsel.

When we look at the best leaders, we see that they’ve surrounded themselves with those who know more than they do. You can’t know everything as a leader. It’s not your job.

Who should we seek counsel from? Older, younger, does it really matter?

Wisdom is more than age. There is a lot to be said of wisdom that comes from years. But wisdom also comes from experience.

What do you wish you would have known about leadership 10 years ago?

Leadership is about relationships. It’s not about what we’re trying to achieve.

Focus on the hearts of those you’re leading. If you don’t know their heart, it’s hard to understand why they’re doing what they’re doing.

What’s one or two books you’d recommend to a growing leader?

Peacemaker by Ken Sande

The Peacemaking Pastor by Alfred Poirier

Anything else you’d like to share with up and coming leaders?

Learn all you can.

Don’t be afraid to ask for help.

Where can you be found online?

Twitter.com/JoshAAndrews

LegalToEnglish.org

LegalToEnglish.academy

Facebook.com/legaltoenglish

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  • Great topic Joe. It is so hard to handle disputes. Either we let our emotions lead the way (never good) or try to ignore the situation hoping it will just go away. It is especially hard in the area of ministry because we are supposed to “love” each other. We have a hard time seeing that some times the best “love” is dealing with conflict head on.

    • Thanks Jon. Disputes are a tricky thing to deal with. Were you able to pull any tips out from Josh in this episode?

      • Seek counsel is huge. No matter how “right” we think we are it is always always important to seek out wise counsel. They can help us see our plank in our eye and also helps us check for any other blind spots. Going it alone is never a good idea.

    • Jon, It is always tough in ministry to deal with conflict in a loving manner. Part of this is because of what Ken Sande calls the “Slippery Slope” of conflict resolution. Everyone has their own reaction to the way they want to deal with conflict. There are escape responses (running away from the problem), attack responses, and biblical (peacemaking) responses to conflict. We, as leaders, must work to facilitate the peacemaking (biblical) responses to resolve disputes with an eye toward restoration of a relationship and the hearts of everyone involved in the dispute. It all starts with getting the log out of our own eye before gently restoring our brother or sister. When dealing in conflict, we (especially as leaders) must take responsibility for our own sin in the conflict and we must always speak the truth in love. The goal in conflict resolution should always be reconciliation. It is an opportunity to glorify God and live out the gospel in conflict by showing forgiveness, repentance, and reconciliation of the relationship. The Bible gives us a clear path to reconciliation in relationships (with other believers) and, if we recognize conflict starts in the heart and that everyone involved is a sinner saved by the grace of God, we can move toward reconciliation in a loving way. That is even true when we are taking the difficult road of dealing with conflict head on.

      • I have always found it best to wait a day or two before responding. That helps me take some of the “emotion” part on my side and also check to be sure I am where I need too be. There have also been times where I have waited an extended period and the Holy Spirit handled the intervention and dealt with the situation. Knowing when to wait require a lot of prayer and wise counsel.