What To Do When Change Is Difficult

Over the last couple of years it seems my wife and I’s lives have been turned inside out.

We lost a beloved dog. A great mentor of ours moved from youth pastor to senior pastor at a different church. Another leader we knew had to be removed from his position of leadership..

you will face difficult times of change

To top things off, we made the difficult choice to resign our position as youth leaders and leave a church we’d attended for years. Talk about rough! And talk about change.

These changes have not been easy. These changes have not been pleasant.

But the changes we’ve faced have taught us what to do when we’re faced with change and when that change is difficult.

Pray: The first thing you need to do when you’re faced with difficult change is to begin to pray. Pray for guidance. Pray for wisdom. Pray for peace. Pray for hope. Pray for signs.

Lean: Throughout all of the changes we’ve faced, we’ve learned that we needed to lean heavy on those we know and love.

Whether it’s a mentor to give you sage advice or whether it’s for comfort, leaning on others helps to ease the pain of change.

Push: Change is a constant in our world. There’s not going to be a day where you’re not going to see or experience change.

But we can’t sit around and wait for something to happen. You’ve got to be willing to push through the change you’re facing.

If you don’t, you’re going to be stuck in the squat and the pain will stick around.

Cry: I’ve always thought I loved change but I think I’m wrong. The more I face change, the more I hate change.

So, I shed tears over the transitions that are happening. I don’t like them but they’re part of life. And when they’re difficult, it’s okay to grieve change.

Pray: I said the first thing you must do when facing transition is to pray. I feel the last thing you need to do is pray as well.

Pray your way through the change. God is there with you and He won’t abandon you.

Bring your requests to Him and let it be heard.

You’ll find yourself in the midst of change frequently as a leader. Don’t let yourself be stopped in your tracks because of the developments happening around you.

Rather, you will need to pray, lean, push, cry, and pray some more through the change.

When you do this, you’ll discover you can make it through difficult change.

Question: What do you do when you find yourself in a period of transition? I want to hear your voice on this topic in the comment section below.

Please note: I reserve the right to delete comments that are offensive or off-topic.

  • I am in one now.. not sure where it will lead but I have spent a lot more time on my knees in prayer for guidance and discernment as I branch out and spread my wings a bit. End game to chase my dream, meantime prepping and a great deal of patience.

    • We’ll join you in prayer Charles. Good luck on the new journey!

  • Hi Joe. I don’t like the “in-between” of transition. I always want to know what’s going to happen next! I love change, but only if it’s a positive change. I have lived in my home for a very long time (17 years) and for many years I wanted to move again. Now I feel content. I’m looking forward to some good changes in the next few years but also dreading my beloved dog getting older. I remember when you lost your dog. My heart went out to you because I knew that kind of pain. Loving an animal that you will outlive is a huge sacrifice of the heart…but well worth it, as you know. Love you, buddy!

    • Yeah, the in-between times aren’t fun, are they Linda? I know you’ve had a lot of changes recently and hope things are going well. It sure sounds like you’re doing better than expected!

      • Yes…better than expected, but I get frustrated at how long it takes to heal. I am very grateful to God for His work in my life, for sure!