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Progress Not Arrival

October 17, 2012 — 12 Comments

We set our goals and begin working towards them. Making progress and hopefully checking the goal off of our list.

But what happens when you never arrive at the end of the goal? Should you be happy with the progress not the arrival?

Cape Point Distance Sign

Image by Alan Green

I’ve set many goals for my life and find myself not completing the goal. Instead, going off the path and going towards another shiny object or giving up on the goal altogether.

It’s got me thinking “Is this such a bad thing?”

One of the worst feelings we have is false fear.

We build ourselves into a frenzy of fear by claiming there’s a danger here and there. It’s everywhere to some people.

The fear only takes hold when we place a level of danger to an action.

Man rock climbing

Image By Alex Indingo

Some people fear leaving the house. Having children. Growing old. Being abandoned. Skydiving.

I face some of those fears. And I have others. Like public speaking. It terrifies me.

Why?

Because I’ve associated it with something dangerous. Failing. Stumbling over my words. Looking like a fool.

We’ve all been told that the only bad question is the one not asked.

That’s a lie. You know it. I know it. There is such a thing as a bad question.

Question Mark Man

Image by Marco Belluci

Just think about your last trip to the store. It may have gone something like this:

You enter through the automatic door. There’s a couple of sales associates chatting. And then you’re approached by a different sales associate.

He greets you by asking “Can I help you with anything today?”

Your instincts kick in and you answer, almost robotically, “No, I’m just browsing today.”

We like to believe that we’re on the right path when things are going well. Doors are opening. And the path is clear.

When we come to a brick wall and hit it full speed, we like to think we’re doing something wrong.

But are we really doing something wrong?

Brick Wall

Image by Claus Rebler

Now, I’ve never run into a brick wall. At least that I can remember.

Though I have run into roadblocks in my life. Events and circumstances which caused me to think I was going in the wrong direction.

You’re probably wondering why there’s an email in your mailbox from me on a Tuesday. I know, I know. I said my normal schedule would be Monday, Wednesday, and Friday.

Well, I wanted to let you know about a new program that my friend, Kimanzi Constable, and Jeremy Jones have created.

Kimanzi Constable has drastically changed his life over the past few years. He’s gone from being a bread delivery man to living his dream of inspiring and motivating others. He’s spoken nationally and internationally. The man has passion and he’s moving forward.